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Thoughts on freedom

In our profession, you can choose when, how, and if to work, but you can’t escape the consequences, be they wanted or unwanted.

That can be scary.

You’re free to choose your team and customer base.

That’s wonderful. No more being forced to work with people you don’t like.

Other people can choose to join your team or customer base… or not.

And likewise for you. You don’t have to join what they’re doing, either.

Your amount of effort will be different from everyone else’s.

Don’t feel concerned if you’re working harder or longer than someone else. And don’t mock others for it, either.

The price of freedom is disciplined action. You choose when to expend the required effort. You can pay it short-term or long-term.

It’s your choice. Always.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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When your past and present collide

Be patient with people who aren’t used to seeing you as an entrepreneur, as a person who craves personal development, as a person who brings solutions.

Stick with your company, grow your network, and soon the majority of people who know you will describe you as a trustworthy business owner.

The rest may or may not adjust their thinking, and that’s not your responsibility.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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The Trap of Small

Don’t cut pennies. Grow dollars.  –LYnn Selwa

It’s important to know what the income and expenses are in a business. As Teresa Romain of Access Abundance describes, clarity may not feel good but ultimately it is empowering.

When the expenses are larger than the revenues, don’t spend hours trying to shave pennies off the price of one-time or rare purchases.

Saving that type of money is costly in time to research or comparison-shop the alternative choices.

It reminds me of watching my next door neighbor drive across town (about an hour round trip) to save 10 cents on $2 worth of sliced ham. Percentage wise, that’s a savings of 5%, but a time drain, not to mention the gasoline involved in driving the car. I figured it was a net loss, financially… she surely burned up more than 10 cents of gas doing it.

Respect your budget, and take the time you would have spent on researching (or driving) to send a few more prospecting texts or make a few more calls.

One extra sale can pay you a lot more than 10 cents. If you develop that relationship with your client or team member, it can lead to repeat sales worth hundreds of dollars.

I’ve noticed women seem to brag about how little they paid for something, while men seem to brag about how much they paid— the bigger, the better. Of course that’s based on the people I have observed and might depend on culture, and is not meant to pigeonhole people. In any case, it generates a question to consider… how do you and your friends compete (in a friendly way) about money?

Don’t feel obligated to participate in a contest proving how little you can be.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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What should I “fake”?

‘Fake’ your confidence, not your results.  –LYnn Selwa

If you need to “borrow” some confidence, that’s fine.

When I want a boost of confidence, I think how a highly respected leader would behave in a similar situation. Then I picture them standing or sitting next to me, lending their silent approval of my words.

Confidence is, “Here is the path I’m taking, here’s my vision, do you want to come along?”

Cockiness is, “I have THE only solution and you need to do it my way, or you’re a loser.”

People like to be invited. Most adults hate to be forced or shamed.

And if your results aren’t “inspiring”, here’s a way to use that to your advantage.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Here’s to sitting next to you!

A lady I saw often during my days in Michigan posted an astounding story on our facebook group. It was several hundred words describing the difficult and heartbreaking journey she has taken through life. Poverty, love found then lost, raising a child singlehandedly against terrible odds.

If you ever met her, you would have no idea of the turmoil she has endured.

She’s calm, friendly, and focused. A loving parent and dedicated volunteer to the organization where we met. A seemingly ordinary retired woman in line at the grocery store.

But her inner strength is extraordinary.

After I managed to close my slack-mouth jaw from astonishment, my typed response included:

It goes to show , At First Glance, You Never Know Whom You’re Sitting Next To.

It’s so true.

Each person holds a hidden story of perseverance and courage within them.

And I salute yours.

Here’s a toast, to sitting next to you and learning about your journey in life.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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It’s so easy

… to fall back into your old role.

“Only a” student. “Only a” plumber. “Only a” housewife/househusband.

Don’t be surprised if your friends and family use that as pressure, to keep you doing what you used to.

It’s comfortable for them … and familiar for you.

Stretching into a new role of “entrepreneur” takes courage.

I salute yours.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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The familiar pattern

I stopped reading momentarily, struck by the truth of his words.

When I read this blog post by Seth Godin, I realized how many times I recognize the pattern of not-doing-as-well-as-I-want.

Missing the cutoff for the leaderboard. Not finishing the exensive goals I set for myself this month. Looking at the email and seeing it is nowhere near “Inbox Zero”.

But his post made me think… do I acknowledge the patterns when things-are-going-great? And do I acknowledge them with the same emotional emphasis or familiarity?

The short answer is, No.

Which of the two patterns is more familiar to you?

I believe the imbalance is heavily influenced by the engineering mindset. It’s hard to set aside years of schooling and working in the industry, which trained me to be aware of all the flaws so I could fix or prevent them. And that something going right is what is SUPPOSED to happen, it is the “normal,” so don’t make a big deal about it until you’re done.

This is where visualization comes handy.

Our technically-trained mindset of “don’t make mistakes” can be realigned to “I’m comfortable with things running smoothly” through visualizing things-going-right. The former mindset is restrictive and punishing — the teacher who is just itching to find an error in the student’s homework– while the latter is more attractive to building a team of entrepreneurs — who are certainly going to make mistakes as they learn to run their businesses.

Here’s the science behind my observations.

The more our minds dwell on something, the more our brains become accustomed to and comfortable with it, and the pattern can be more quickly accessed and more comfortably expected. Whatever we focus on, our mind seeks to identify more examples and create more similar situations. (This is a combination of myelinization of the brain’s neurons and the Reticular Activating System working together to reinforce thought patterns, and by extention reinforcing the personal expectations.)

Visualization of things-going-right is a useful tool to reinforce the positive train of thought.

Just remember to follow it by actions that support your goals, or you risk frustrating yourself.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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When you ask them to join

Expect a “yes.” Respect a “no.”

–Rob Sperry, Network Marketing inspirational speaker

I adore this advice. It gives me a mindset of expecting good things to happen, yet takes the pressure off me to “create” a yes. It lets the potential teammate move toward what I’m offering and join our team, instead of me trying to “bring them onto the team.”

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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A strange type of group

Many years ago, I was talking with a potential team member, and he said with a sneer,

Isn’t that a cult?

And I matter-of-factly replied,

It’s the kind that GIVES you money. Are you interested?

The dumbfounded look I received in response was priceless!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Fail like a Texan

(For those of you who like the state of Texas, USA… hold your horses, I’m about to give you a compliment. Keep reading…)

My husband and I completed our first nine months of German language classes this month. Whew! We learned more than 1700 vocabulary words and feel much more confident about holding simple conversations.

However, there were LOTS of times I didn’t know the answer. Or I wasn’t sure of the answer.

But I remembered advice from some of my network marketing mentors who hail from the Lone Star State: “Go Big or Go Home.”

It’s an encouragement, to not be timid about what you do in life. Steer clear of bombast, yet have some neutral-to-confident attitude even when you’re learning. Don’t assume you’re always right… and don’t assume you’re always wrong.

So I decided I could do that with my voice. I forced myself to enunciate clearly and speak in a plenty-loud voice so everyone in the classroom could hear me.

And when wrong, I accepted the correction gracefully.

In learning languages or in business, when you’re starting out (or learning a new skill), you will be wrong a lot before you’re right most of the time. You won’t know all the answers. The product or delivery might need tweaking. You might need to practice more after your second presentation than you did prior to your first.

And you might surprise yourself by how often you’re “right” or moving effectively toward your goal. How even a flawed presentation can enroll new business partners. How being honest that you don’t know the answer can dramatically increase trust.

Speak with a voice that your audience can hear. And be willing to accept your stumbles as part of the process.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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