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Speaking in opposites

Business language can be backwards in its approach.

In a recent industry-wide webinar, I observed people speaking about their businesses.

One person used a word starting with the letter k (a synonym for ending life) and he meant it as a compliment of how well he performed a recent presentation to potential business colleagues.

Another talked about massive growth and used a word beginning with b.

(actual words omitted because I don’t need some search engine flagging my blog as violent)

And the presenter challenged the crowd with a common question: “How bad do you want it?”

These statements got me thinking about how our subconscious mind interprets language.

In personal development books and seminars I learned how the subconscious mind interprets language. It is like a 3 or 4 year old child, taking things literally, regardless of how old we are or how many years of school we attended.

So I started asking myself, “Do we really want to end our businesses? Do we want them to expand so quickly and unsustainably that they disintegrate and burn everything in their vicinity?”

Well, not really. Those words are metaphors for enrolling everyone, or for rapidly expanding growth.

And it’s truly not “bad” to want something… it’s another way of saying I want it STRONGLY.

Scoff if you wish at what seems like verbal nit-picking … but realize the center of motivation and goal setting listens to the literal. Yes, your internal toddler controls your goal-setting.

Consider these alternate phrases:

“I wow’d everyone!” “Momentum!” and “How strongly do you want it?” are three suggested substitutions.

Watch your language… it can program you for success or failure, even inadvertently.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Fail like a Texan

(For those of you who like the state of Texas, USA… hold your horses, I’m about to give you a compliment. Keep reading…)

My husband and I completed our first nine months of German language classes this month. Whew! We learned more than 1700 vocabulary words and feel much more confident about holding simple conversations.

However, there were LOTS of times I didn’t know the answer. Or I wasn’t sure of the answer.

But I remembered advice from some of my network marketing mentors who hail from the Lone Star State: “Go Big or Go Home.”

It’s an encouragement, to not be timid about what you do in life. Steer clear of bombast, yet have some neutral-to-confident attitude even when you’re learning. Don’t assume you’re always right… and don’t assume you’re always wrong.

So I decided I could do that with my voice. I forced myself to enunciate clearly and speak in a plenty-loud voice so everyone in the classroom could hear me.

And when wrong, I accepted the correction gracefully.

In learning languages or in business, when you’re starting out (or learning a new skill), you will be wrong a lot before you’re right most of the time. You won’t know all the answers. The product or delivery might need tweaking. You might need to practice more after your second presentation than you did prior to your first.

And you might surprise yourself by how often you’re “right” or moving effectively toward your goal. How even a flawed presentation can enroll new business partners. How being honest that you don’t know the answer can dramatically increase trust.

Speak with a voice that your audience can hear. And be willing to accept your stumbles as part of the process.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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What does your language say about you?

Rich people strategize.

Poor people complain.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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What language are you speaking?

Residuals.

Downline.

Coding bonus overrides.

That’s English, right?

But for most English-speaking people outside our profession, you may as well be speaking a foriegn language.

A person looking at the professon might think:

That’s the leftover junk at the bottom of the tank, or the grit that didn’t get removed when I did the dishes. I don’t want that.

You must not like them very much.

Someone took your bonus away? How awful!

Much like technical topics, our profession is detailed and has its own vernacular. Certain words have legal definitions, too.

Jargon is a shorthand that’s great for discussions within our profession.

But it can be intimidating to someone who’s not.

What if we spoke two languages: short and clear descriptions for those who are looking to join us, and the fine-tuned special vocabulary for those of us immersed in it?

After all, simple is appealing. Simple is attractive. People are looking for simple solutions.

How would our profession’s reputation change if we described things like this:

Money that comes in month after month.

Your sales team.

Bonuses you receive when your team sells products.

Watch the language in your videos, literature, and individual conversations. Jargon doesn’t impress people; it makes them feel uncomfortable and excluded.

Keep it simple and accurate. They’re more likely to join your team if they feel comfortable with the words you use.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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