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What does boredom cause?

Note: If you are struggling with perpetual defeating thoughts such as”why is everyone so happy” or “they would be better off without me,” please call your medical doctor or visit an hospital emergency room immediately. These thoughts sometimes get stronger and more unbearable around the end-of-year holidays. I may not know you in person, but I assure you that You Matter In This World.  –LS

 

Today I spotted a blog entry regarding boredom, claiming it is a direct cause of depression and suicide. I’m a long-time reader of his work, and he’s no stranger to bold yet thoughtful statements, most of which I respect because of the critical thinking skills he applies in developing them. Today I definitely disagree with his viewpoint. Here are the comments I posted.

“I disagree about boredom as a cause of depression or suicide. Clinical depression and suicidal thoughts are symptoms of an urgent medical situation, and I urge people experiencing those to seek a medical doctor or an emergency room for help, immediately.

When people are perpetually bored, that typically signals being in a rut. I agree that introspection can be helpful in discovering what one truly wants out of life, and those discoveries can uncover some uncomfortable realizations about one’s past decision-making and behavior.

However, for the person who is experiencing suicidal thoughts or clinical depression (not a mild ‘down in the dumps’), self-introspection can easily lead to rumination, which makes the situation worse. The therapist’s job includes guiding the introspection and logical thinking in ways that dig deep yet keep the person’s mind from being a weapon turned against oneself. The very process of therapy typically includes examining every belief one has. (I use the word ‘typically’ here, because there are many modes of psychotherapy.)

I don’t think public speaking is truly people’s number one fear.

Deep introspection is.

Only the brave attempt it, either on their own or with a therapist. Only the bravest make the changes it indicates.”

If you are examining your path in any aspect of your life, I send you strength and courage.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Knowledge is not enough

Information, Application, Transformation

— LYnn Selwa, The Rocket Science Coach ™

Everyone is watching the prophet

A social media post caught my eye today.

It asked a long-standing question, which I will summarize: If you see a celebrity marketing a new item and you buy it… why do you say No to a friend doing the same? After all, you don’t know the celebrity and she/he certainly has plenty of money already.

It’s the struggle of being what is called “a prophet in your own town.”

Consider that your parents, siblings, cousins, and friends already know you.

That’s supposed to be an advantage, right?

Well, sometimes it is. And sometimes not.

They know you… but in a particular role. You’re their family member or friend, but you are also a stay-at-home parent, insurance agent, nurse, accountant, or police officer. They feel comfortable seeing you in that role. And they’re used to seeing you relate to the working world in that manner.

They may subconsciously be asking themselves, “Why is this person changing? I didn’t know they had a burning love for (product). And they can barely pay the bills— so why should I believe ANYTHING they tell me about making big money?”

Perhaps you are one of the fortunate ones who already is making lots of money in your current line of work. Your family members and friends might be more willing to listen, since you already seem to have “a good head” about making money. Then again, maybe not.

When I joined my first Network Marketing company in 1996, I approached my extended family members first, just like I was trained to do by my sponsor. All but one said No, and several of them were downright mean in their comments. I felt angry and embarrassed when I reported my lack of progress in the next training meeting. And the next. And the next.

Sometimes it is easier to go where no one knows you.

If your situation is similar to what I experienced, concentrate on meeting and building relationships with business people who don’t know you. They won’t have a preconceived notion of who you are supposed to CONTINUE being.

When I joined my current company I said very little to my extended family, but I joined and concentrated on people I met in a weekly business referrals group.

You can do the same. Attend business networking groups and meet other entrepreneurs and decision-makers. Your local Chamber of Commerce is a good place to begin. Stay in touch by wishing your new acquaintances congratulations, happy new year, happy birthday, or passing along a tip about their profession or hobby. These actions build trust and visibility.

By the way, when people say No, they continue watching.

They’re watching to see if you are in this for the long term.

Be businesslike. Be committed to building, at the pace that is right for you.

It’s tempting to buy things you can’t afford, simply to “look successful.” It’s a trap. Please avoid it.

Simply keep taking business building actions, and some of the doubters will turn into believers.

And they will brag about your product, as if they were one of your earliest supporters.

Let them. And smile all the way to the bank.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Which side of the magic?

I’m not speaking of the fabled Dark and Light Sides of The Force, as portrayed in Star Wars.

Instead I’m describing a common question from children at this time of year.

Does the man in red really exist?

Frankly, the answer is based on the following question:

Would you rather receive the magic… or would you rather BE the magic?

There is joy and delight in receiving gifts from an unseen loving person. Likewise in our businesses, receiving and implementing words of wisdom from a person you’ve never met can get us back on track or even cause a breakthrough.

I challenge you to be on both sides at once. Be a willing recipient of respectful advice that causes you to grow yourself and your company. And also be willing to share what you’ve learned with others, to guide them to their own breakthroughs.

The magic is within you.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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