Category Archives: Personal Stories

The bright side

My neighbors were noisy early this morning. I awoke suddenly in the dark and reached for the clock. 5:04am. I could hear the muted thump of a stereo system and feel the bed shake nearly continuously. (and when I discover which of the 20+ flats it was coming from, I will talk to them during the day, when everyone is calm.)

Needless to say, that was the unplanned early end of my night.

Being up early is unusual for me. You see, like many people reading this blog, I earn Roll-Over Money. I’m a night owl by inclination, which means I would rather stay up late than get an early start on the day.

So being jerked awake earlier than planned can put me in a foul mood.

To turn around a state of mind that was quickly sliding toward seething anger, I literally asked myself, “How can I take advantage of being up early?”

Two answers popped into my mind: submit the product orders that I had planned to do today, and post a photo/Facebook Live if the sunrise ends up looking spectacular.

I submitted the product orders…and it was still “yesterday” at the company headquarters, due to the difference in time zones. Who says time travel isn’t possible?

And the sunrise was spectacular. Hence a photo of the vivid orange and yellow painted sky, which my social media followers have been enjoying for more than 5 hours.

Here’s my question for you: When things go awry, how can you turn it around?

After all, Ma Ingalls has a philosophy in the “Little House on the Prairie” books: There is no loss without some gain.

Today I’m glad I was able to think on the bright side, like the pioneers in those books.

(or, if you prefer music over prose, Monty Python has a song along those lines. You’re welcome for the “ear worm.”)

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Say “Awe!”

In the northern hemisphere, many people are decorating their homes and windowsills with holiday lights and ornaments.

Menorahs gleam in ever-increasing candlelight.

White and colored tiny lights blink a welcome.

Here in Germany, the recent coating of snow makes many old half timber buildings look like a classic Christmas card.

Wherever you are in the world, my wish for you this week is that you find a moment where you stop and take a gasp of wonder at a beautiful sight.

A cat bumping heads with the person holding it.

A child’s delighted laughter.

The sunlight suddenly illuminating your favorite tree.

And if this season of celebration is painful for you, you might be comforted by last week’s post.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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A beautiful and brutal time of year

In early 2014 my parents in law perished in an automobile accident.

I hoped that the 2014 Christmas season would be less brutal than I was cautioned to expect.


That year I could barely handle looking at holiday decor and sentiments, which is tough when one’s business deals squarely with those themes in the biggest financial quarter of the year.

I recall handling my clients’ requests with calmness and friendliness, but frequently after hanging up the phone or coming home after a meeting, I would cry from grief.

Subsequent years have been easier, but always include twinges of bittersweet memories.

If this describes you, know you are not alone.

Nowadays I look forward to the snow, low nighttime light, and the surge of friendly tidings of friends and strangers. I enjoy helping people select their items for purchase from our web site and giving pointers about designing their personal greetings of the season.

This season tends to heighten emotions, whether of past celebrations, current friends and family, or of those left behind or gone.

Regardless of what your product or service is, at least some of your clients and potential clients are experiencing similar, usually hidden, grief. It can manifest outwardly in angry responses to questions, suddenly cancelled appointments, and other awkward sales situations.

Please don’t take their actions personally. They might be receptive again after the new year begins.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Thank you

Tomorrow marks my 4th anniversary of publishing this blog.

After several hours of writing and refining the story, my heart was pounding as I clicked “Publish” on that first post. I felt vulnerable and hoped the public would treat me kindly as I learned the basic concepts of blogging. I launched it the day I submitted my final markups to my first article in “Networking Times” magazine.

This blog has been a way for me to build on ideas in that original article, as well as a thought-provoking way to share my observations about our industry. I appreciate your time as you read and respond to my posts. Thanks for being kind to this rookie blogger! I look forward to sharing insights with you during the upcoming 12 months.

Wishing you the very best,


A leap made with eyes wide open

In March my husband accepted a permanent position in Germany.

We discussed such a move for several years, and then a fabulous job opening became available in January.  So we jumped at the chance.

After our transatlantic flight in late July, we are settling into life in southwest Germany, and I continue to run my network marketing business which is incorporated in the USA.

I will be posting stories about networking in a new language and other business topics in the coming months!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Congratulate yourself in advance

Here’s one of my favorite motivational activities.

Pick a goal: a rank/pin level, income, or other goal.

Create a real greeting card congratulating you on accomplishing your goal, written from the point of view of someone powerful you respect. Examples are: your favorite business speaker, your higher power, the Universe, your favorite philosopher (living or deceased), your future self.

Yes, I mean go to the store and buy a physical greeting card, make one yourself, or use an online system that prints and mails one for you.

Important: make sure it is made of stiff paper and the fold is on the side. (That way it will stand up on its own for weeks or months.)

Not sure what to say? Here’s an idea:

“Dear Jane, you are awesome! I always knew you would become an Executive with your company, and I’m very happy you accomplished that goal. Congratulations! ” and sign it with their FIRST name, as if you were very good friends.

Now mail it to yourself. I’m serious– put a stamp on it and mail it to your address.

When you see it in the delivered mail, you will likely get a instant lift in mood.

Open it and set it in a private place — for example, display it in your at-home office or your bedroom. (NOT where co-workers or the general public can see it)

Imagine that person or being saying those words to you aloud, with great pride and warmth in their voice.

Put the card away the next morning.

Here’s the real secret: at the end of a hard day, set the card on your kitchen table or other private area of your home (maybe your dresser or nightstand). When you see the greeting card in the morning, if you’re like me, you’ll get a burst of happiness from seeing it. Savor the feeling of accomplishment and happiness.

When I was working diligently toward my now-current rank, I created 6 such greeting cards with different congratulatory messages. When I walked into my at-home office the morning after a hard day (or in the final days of working focused toward the goal), I got that burst of energy and happiness.

Repeat as many times as you please.

And please, do not pretend to other people that the signatures or messages are actually from those famous people… this activity is just between you and the 4 walls of your private room.

The power of this technique comes from setting out the cards occasionally, deliberately, AND in a private room.

Use it wisely.

Even more fun: after reaching that goal, you likely will receive congratulatory greeting cards or letters. Set these on display every evening until you get tired of seeing them!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Let it rot

“Just a friendly reminder that you [have] only 1 more day of replay access to the __________________ event videos. Replay access ends on April 6th at 8:30 am Central time. “

This message landed in my email inbox yesterday.

I don’t know about you, but I am somewhat addicted to personal development.

When I read a personal development book, I underline and make notes in the margin. (Thank goodness we can easily afford to buy the books instead of relying on the public library volumes.) When I show up in person to a training session, I am vying for the front row, or as close to the front as possible. When there’s a livestream, I watch as many sessions as I reasonably can and take handwritten notes… then quickly post a summary of the talk in our distributors-only Facebook group.

The event referenced in the email was a 3-day livestreamed seminar with more than 20 presenters. I was learning powerful insights in each of the sessions.

And I was grateful for the month-long access to the full-session recordings. The completeness of the content combined with the length of time to watch lessened my fear-of-missing-out.

And when I was just getting started in this profession, I had a significant fear of that opportunity passing me by.

Here’s how I compensated.

When I was a distributor in my first network marketing company, I let the training get out of hand. I always had another conference call, Saturday “advanced training,” or book. Goodness knows I needed lots of guidance, as I was still developing an entrepreneur’s self-discipline and body of knowledge. But I went too far.

Eventually I allowed myself to understand that I was using those tools to procrastinate from doing the scarier actions: meeting people, calling to set appointments, and asking for the sale.

When I joined my current company 10 years ago I made a decision. I would attend seminars and/or study personal development information, but at a reduced rate. I promised myself to be more honest with myself regarding procrastination. I recognized that the “shiny new object” syndrome gets activated in my brain not by new shoes or the latest technology toy, but by being easily distracted by the new or ‘scarce’ book, seminar, or training session.

And over the past decade I realized that wanting to buy and hold and renew large quantities of such information WAS a flareup of the old “I’m getting passed by” thought process.

When I received that email, I thought back through the past month. I watched about half of the sessions in real time. Then last week I took 2 chunks of time to watch the remaining recordings, knowing the one-month watching deadline was coming soon.

I was confronted with an offer in that email: pay X amount of money to have “lifetime access” to these recordings, or lose access to them forever.

I asked myself two key questions.

  1.  Did I watch and take notes on the specific sections that I was most likely to apply?
  2.  What is the likelihood I will ever watch those sessions again?

The answers:

  1. Yes.
  2. Near zero. (and do I want to ‘hoard’ those materials, even the access to them?)

I chose to let it expire. (and I will gladly register for the next year’s livestream)

Sometimes a forced purge is helpful.

This time it was best to let the offer rot.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Hoarding information is one way I tried to capture the elusive “secret to success.” It’s elusive because there’s no single such secret. And I realize that feeding my brain with positive and uplifting information is the important thing.

(Yes I will hang onto many of the personal development books I read over the years. This isn’t a call to go so-called ‘minimalist.’ Perhaps it is a call to go ‘choosy-ist.’)  –LS