Category Archives: Personal Stories

Say “Awe!”

In the northern hemisphere, many people are decorating their homes and windowsills with holiday lights and ornaments.

Menorahs gleam in ever-increasing candlelight.

White and colored tiny lights blink a welcome.

Here in Germany, the recent coating of snow makes many old half timber buildings look like a classic Christmas card.

Wherever you are in the world, my wish for you this week is that you find a moment where you stop and take a gasp of wonder at a beautiful sight.

A cat bumping heads with the person holding it.

A child’s delighted laughter.

The sunlight suddenly illuminating your favorite tree.

And if this season of celebration is painful for you, you might be comforted by last week’s post.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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A beautiful and brutal time of year

In early 2014 my parents in law perished in an automobile accident.

I hoped that the 2014 Christmas season would be less brutal than I was cautioned to expect.

Wrong.

That year I could barely handle looking at holiday decor and sentiments, which is tough when one’s business deals squarely with those themes in the biggest financial quarter of the year.

I recall handling my clients’ requests with calmness and friendliness, but frequently after hanging up the phone or coming home after a meeting, I would cry from grief.

Subsequent years have been easier, but always include twinges of bittersweet memories.

If this describes you, know you are not alone.

Nowadays I look forward to the snow, low nighttime light, and the surge of friendly tidings of friends and strangers. I enjoy helping people select their items for purchase from our web site and giving pointers about designing their personal greetings of the season.

This season tends to heighten emotions, whether of past celebrations, current friends and family, or of those left behind or gone.

Regardless of what your product or service is, at least some of your clients and potential clients are experiencing similar, usually hidden, grief. It can manifest outwardly in angry responses to questions, suddenly cancelled appointments, and other awkward sales situations.

Please don’t take their actions personally. They might be receptive again after the new year begins.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Thank you

Tomorrow marks my 4th anniversary of publishing this blog.

After several hours of writing and refining the story, my heart was pounding as I clicked “Publish” on that first post. I felt vulnerable and hoped the public would treat me kindly as I learned the basic concepts of blogging. I launched it the day I submitted my final markups to my first article in “Networking Times” magazine.

This blog has been a way for me to build on ideas in that original article, as well as a thought-provoking way to share my observations about our industry. I appreciate your time as you read and respond to my posts. Thanks for being kind to this rookie blogger! I look forward to sharing insights with you during the upcoming 12 months.

Wishing you the very best,
LYnn

A leap made with eyes wide open

In March my husband accepted a permanent position in Germany.

We discussed such a move for several years, and then a fabulous job opening became available in January.  So we jumped at the chance.

After our transatlantic flight in late July, we are settling into life in southwest Germany, and I continue to run my network marketing business which is incorporated in the USA.

I will be posting stories about networking in a new language and other business topics in the coming months!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Congratulate yourself in advance

Here’s one of my favorite motivational activities.

Pick a goal: a rank/pin level, income, or other goal.

Create a real greeting card congratulating you on accomplishing your goal, written from the point of view of someone powerful you respect. Examples are: your favorite business speaker, your higher power, the Universe, your favorite philosopher (living or deceased), your future self.

Yes, I mean go to the store and buy a physical greeting card, make one yourself, or use an online system that prints and mails one for you.

Important: make sure it is made of stiff paper and the fold is on the side. (That way it will stand up on its own for weeks or months.)

Not sure what to say? Here’s an idea:

“Dear Jane, you are awesome! I always knew you would become an Executive with your company, and I’m very happy you accomplished that goal. Congratulations! ” and sign it with their FIRST name, as if you were very good friends.

Now mail it to yourself. I’m serious– put a stamp on it and mail it to your address.

When you see it in the delivered mail, you will likely get a instant lift in mood.

Open it and set it in a private place — for example, display it in your at-home office or your bedroom. (NOT where co-workers or the general public can see it)

Imagine that person or being saying those words to you aloud, with great pride and warmth in their voice.

Put the card away the next morning.

Here’s the real secret: at the end of a hard day, set the card on your kitchen table or other private area of your home (maybe your dresser or nightstand). When you see the greeting card in the morning, if you’re like me, you’ll get a burst of happiness from seeing it. Savor the feeling of accomplishment and happiness.

When I was working diligently toward my now-current rank, I created 6 such greeting cards with different congratulatory messages. When I walked into my at-home office the morning after a hard day (or in the final days of working focused toward the goal), I got that burst of energy and happiness.

Repeat as many times as you please.

And please, do not pretend to other people that the signatures or messages are actually from those famous people… this activity is just between you and the 4 walls of your private room.

The power of this technique comes from setting out the cards occasionally, deliberately, AND in a private room.

Use it wisely.

Even more fun: after reaching that goal, you likely will receive congratulatory greeting cards or letters. Set these on display every evening until you get tired of seeing them!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Let it rot

“Just a friendly reminder that you [have] only 1 more day of replay access to the __________________ event videos. Replay access ends on April 6th at 8:30 am Central time. “

This message landed in my email inbox yesterday.

I don’t know about you, but I am somewhat addicted to personal development.

When I read a personal development book, I underline and make notes in the margin. (Thank goodness we can easily afford to buy the books instead of relying on the public library volumes.) When I show up in person to a training session, I am vying for the front row, or as close to the front as possible. When there’s a livestream, I watch as many sessions as I reasonably can and take handwritten notes… then quickly post a summary of the talk in our distributors-only Facebook group.

The event referenced in the email was a 3-day livestreamed seminar with more than 20 presenters. I was learning powerful insights in each of the sessions.

And I was grateful for the month-long access to the full-session recordings. The completeness of the content combined with the length of time to watch lessened my fear-of-missing-out.

And when I was just getting started in this profession, I had a significant fear of that opportunity passing me by.

Here’s how I compensated.

When I was a distributor in my first network marketing company, I let the training get out of hand. I always had another conference call, Saturday “advanced training,” or book. Goodness knows I needed lots of guidance, as I was still developing an entrepreneur’s self-discipline and body of knowledge. But I went too far.

Eventually I allowed myself to understand that I was using those tools to procrastinate from doing the scarier actions: meeting people, calling to set appointments, and asking for the sale.

When I joined my current company 10 years ago I made a decision. I would attend seminars and/or study personal development information, but at a reduced rate. I promised myself to be more honest with myself regarding procrastination. I recognized that the “shiny new object” syndrome gets activated in my brain not by new shoes or the latest technology toy, but by being easily distracted by the new or ‘scarce’ book, seminar, or training session.

And over the past decade I realized that wanting to buy and hold and renew large quantities of such information WAS a flareup of the old “I’m getting passed by” thought process.

When I received that email, I thought back through the past month. I watched about half of the sessions in real time. Then last week I took 2 chunks of time to watch the remaining recordings, knowing the one-month watching deadline was coming soon.

I was confronted with an offer in that email: pay X amount of money to have “lifetime access” to these recordings, or lose access to them forever.

I asked myself two key questions.

  1.  Did I watch and take notes on the specific sections that I was most likely to apply?
  2.  What is the likelihood I will ever watch those sessions again?

The answers:

  1. Yes.
  2. Near zero. (and do I want to ‘hoard’ those materials, even the access to them?)

I chose to let it expire. (and I will gladly register for the next year’s livestream)

Sometimes a forced purge is helpful.

This time it was best to let the offer rot.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Postscript:

Hoarding information is one way I tried to capture the elusive “secret to success.” It’s elusive because there’s no single such secret. And I realize that feeding my brain with positive and uplifting information is the important thing.

(Yes I will hang onto many of the personal development books I read over the years. This isn’t a call to go so-called ‘minimalist.’ Perhaps it is a call to go ‘choosy-ist.’)  –LS

 

4 lessons and a 9-word question

Learning about financial concepts is crucial for building wealth and staying wealthy. Here’s what I posted on social media earlier this week:

4 Lessons Wealthy People Taught Me

1. An asset pays for itself and creates a monthly net profit.
2. When bankers say, “It’s an asset,” they mean it creates a profit for THEM.
3. Build Automatic Money Generators that don’t require your presence. (a special class of assets)
4. You are financially free when your Automatic Money Generators pay you more than you are spending.

One of my social media friends replied, “How does one create Automatic Money Generators?”

Here’s a little background. We have known each other In Real Life for nearly 10 years. She’s attended parties at our home, we attended her wedding, and we have talked numerous times in person. She’s not simply someone I met online. In the past few weeks she posted a question on social media, and when I responded mentioning a $5 solution, I received some version of “I can’t afford that.”

So I considered her situation and past reactions into my response. I wasn’t going to jump into booking a business presentation with someone who thinks $5 is too much to spend. I decided to start with some basic information and a question to gauge her level of interest.

I sent a private message: “I have just a few minutes to type right now, so this might be an incomplete answer. “Automatic Money Generators” are businesses, real estate, or other investments that generate profits for the owner every month, whether or not the owner shows up for work. The situation is otherwise known as “passive income” and always requires up-front money, energy, education (books or seminars), and time to create. (Like planting an apple tree, nurturing it until it bears fruit, and making sure someone is trimming and fertilizing the tree on an ongoing basis). Net-income producing real estate rentals, real estate tax liens, musicians who have songs on iTunes, and businesses like mine all qualify. Which one of those sounds most interesting to you?”

This launched a back-and-forth via texting, which included my recommendation of a library book to read. She loves to read, so reading a book is not stressful. Also, libraries loan books for free, so the money question is eliminated for this step.

We ended with her promise to look for that book during the library trip next week… and to let me know her opinion of it after she’s finished reading.

So now it’s in her hands.

In some ways she reminds me of a younger me.

One of my husband’s co-workers made an offhand remark about 20 years ago. She mentioned a book about finance that she liked. My husband and I didn’t have an extra $20 to buy our own copy. It was a newly-released book, so there weren’t copies available on the bookshelves of the charity resale stores in our area. We contacted the local library to put our names on the waiting list for that book, and we waited nearly 3 months for our turn to read it.

Reading those pages was a pivotal moment for our understanding of the power of leverage and the differences between self-employment and business systems.

When there’s a will, there’s a way. We waited for then read (I mean devoured) that book and others written by that author. If she’s truly interested in elevating her financial situation, she will find that book and read it quickly. I will discover if she is “coachable” by what she does in this situation.

The next move is hers. Her actions will reveal whether she is ready to move from dreaming to taking action toward a more prosperous future.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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