Category Archives: Personal Stories

How a piece of construction paper shifted my money habits

When I was in the early years of my first network marketing business, I found myself giving away money to various charities… gladly. A documentary about a historian, meal-for-the-holidays, etc.

That all changed when my husband lost his job and we had to move in with his parents.

The small Colorado town we landed in had a vibrant community life. Nearly every week there were opportunities to volunteer one’s time or to donate money to local and national charities. I donated my time to various events and had fun being part of the action. My husband took a job in the grocery store, and I went to work as a mortgage loan officer, to pay the credit card debt and our share of food and utilities.

Meanwhile, every penny was precious. We discussed every purchase above $5, and when the bank account was continually hovering a mere handful of dollars above zero, we agreed that we would stop all financial charitable contributions and selectively gift our time instead.

The change in my attitude came in early December of the second year.

In the town’s annual tradition, one of the local groups set up a poster in the entryway of the grocery store, which held “Santa” wishes for people in need. Instead of CDs or the newest toy, these were requests for newly-purchased basics and were written on pieces of red or green pine-tree-shaped construction paper. A winter coat. Mittens. Boots. Socks. And where to drop off the items at the county fairgrounds. (The previous year, I bought and donated a new pair of girls’ boots to match one of the requests.)

Each item had the appropriate size listed, along with a basic descriptor of the receiver.

The item that stopped me in my tracks was: “11 year old girl needs 7 pairs of (size) underwear.”

I also realized that my own underwear was nearly in shreds, the elastic so stretched and ineffective sometimes they slipped off my hips but were caught by the slacks I was wearing. (I think you can imagine how that worked.)

I pulled out the pushpin and freed that red slip of paper from the display, promising myself that I would remount it the next day, intact, if I could not provide the item.

My husband and I had a discussion in our bedroom that evening. In the end we decided to spend money on both of us women. Seven pairs for her, and likewise for me.

As I gently placed the requested item on the intake table at the fairgrounds, I realized this was a turning point in recognizing the difference between poverty consciousness and prosperity consciousness in my own life.

Since that time, I have observed when I have an urge to donate goods or money. I ask myself, “Am I also taking good care of myself and our household?” And nowadays when money is much more plentiful: “Have I been creating artificial lack in my head, denying myself a similar purchase?”

Each of us wrestles with different aspects of money behavior.

Sometimes we need an outside reason to spur us to take care of our own situation.

And sometimes we need an outside influence to go earn the money in the first place.

Regardless of your personal situation, I suggest you watch the video regarding the second situation. Randy Gage has some insightful ideas, which might come in handy for one of your teammates.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach”

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A strange type of group

Many years ago, I was talking with a potential team member, and he said with a sneer,

Isn’t that a cult?

And I matter-of-factly replied,

It’s the kind that GIVES you money. Are you interested?

The dumbfounded look I received in response was priceless!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Pinching the buds

We planned the garden during the bitter cold days of winter. I had visions of fresh strawberries, so my mom ordered the plants.

After the last frost we broke ground to expand last year’s garden, so we had plenty of room to grow strawberries. Removing sod, hoeing, and loosening the dirt to accept the plants. Watering every evening.

The sweet fruits would be our reward.

Then May arrived, and the plants began to blossom.

Then my mom broke the bad news to my 12-year-old self.

“We have a choice. If we want strawberries this year, we can let the blossoms open and get pollinated. We will have a crop in June.”

I was nodding my head excitedly.

“But.. if we do that, the plants will never get bigger. We will only have small crops, and that won’t be much fun to split a small number of strawberries among the five people in our household. To get a bigger crop, I have to pinch the blooms off… that will force the plant to send out runners, and starting next year we will have a huge crop throughout June.”

I sadly agreed, and it was hard to watch the strawberries not produce any fruit that first year. My friends asked in June, How many strawberries did you get? And when I told them ‘none,’ they asked me, “Why did you bother planting any in the first place? You can get stawberries at the store for a lot less work.”

But during that second summer… I was glad my mom pinched those buds the year before. We had one of the largest strawberry plots in our neighborhood. And plenty of fruit to pick and eat– twice a day– during June, for nearly a decade.

Sometimes in our businesses we want to enjoy the fast fruit. Spending our initial profits (plus more) on a flashy outfit, tech toy, or costume jewelry. Figuring out how to build one-time bonus income to boost our checks so our income equals or surpasses our job paycheck. Deciding what to do to get promoted faster, at the expense of building a solid residual income.

Where in your business activities do you need to “pinch the buds”?

Certainly it’s fine to enjoy some of the fruits of the labor in the early days. But consistently prioritizing short-term “flash” over long term stability will stunt the growth of the organization. …Or at least create roots that rot, seemingly suddenly.

Enjoy some of the profits, and focus your efforts on long-term growth.

The satisfaction has a sweeter taste when it follows self-chosen, self-disciplined actions.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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The bright side

My neighbors were noisy early this morning. I awoke suddenly in the dark and reached for the clock. 5:04am. I could hear the muted thump of a stereo system and feel the bed shake nearly continuously. (and when I discover which of the 20+ flats it was coming from, I will talk to them during the day, when everyone is calm.)

Needless to say, that was the unplanned early end of my night.

Being up early is unusual for me. You see, like many people reading this blog, I earn Roll-Over Money. I’m a night owl by inclination, which means I would rather stay up late than get an early start on the day.

So being jerked awake earlier than planned can put me in a foul mood.

To turn around a state of mind that was quickly sliding toward seething anger, I literally asked myself, “How can I take advantage of being up early?”

Two answers popped into my mind: submit the product orders that I had planned to do today, and post a photo/Facebook Live if the sunrise ends up looking spectacular.

I submitted the product orders…and it was still “yesterday” at the company headquarters, due to the difference in time zones. Who says time travel isn’t possible?

And the sunrise was spectacular. Hence a photo of the vivid orange and yellow painted sky, which my social media followers have been enjoying for more than 5 hours.

Here’s my question for you: When things go awry, how can you turn it around?

After all, Ma Ingalls has a philosophy in the “Little House on the Prairie” books: There is no loss without some gain.

Today I’m glad I was able to think on the bright side, like the pioneers in those books.

(or, if you prefer music over prose, Monty Python has a song along those lines. You’re welcome for the “ear worm.”)

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

#lynnselwa #therocketsciencecoach #thebrightside #leveragedsales #mlm #networkmarketing #partyplan

Say “Awe!”

In the northern hemisphere, many people are decorating their homes and windowsills with holiday lights and ornaments.

Menorahs gleam in ever-increasing candlelight.

White and colored tiny lights blink a welcome.

Here in Germany, the recent coating of snow makes many old half timber buildings look like a classic Christmas card.

Wherever you are in the world, my wish for you this week is that you find a moment where you stop and take a gasp of wonder at a beautiful sight.

A cat bumping heads with the person holding it.

A child’s delighted laughter.

The sunlight suddenly illuminating your favorite tree.

And if this season of celebration is painful for you, you might be comforted by last week’s post.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

#lynnselwa #therocketsciencecoach #sayawe

 

A beautiful and brutal time of year

In early 2014 my parents in law perished in an automobile accident.

I hoped that the 2014 Christmas season would be less brutal than I was cautioned to expect.

Wrong.

That year I could barely handle looking at holiday decor and sentiments, which is tough when one’s business deals squarely with those themes in the biggest financial quarter of the year.

I recall handling my clients’ requests with calmness and friendliness, but frequently after hanging up the phone or coming home after a meeting, I would cry from grief.

Subsequent years have been easier, but always include twinges of bittersweet memories.

If this describes you, know you are not alone.

Nowadays I look forward to the snow, low nighttime light, and the surge of friendly tidings of friends and strangers. I enjoy helping people select their items for purchase from our web site and giving pointers about designing their personal greetings of the season.

This season tends to heighten emotions, whether of past celebrations, current friends and family, or of those left behind or gone.

Regardless of what your product or service is, at least some of your clients and potential clients are experiencing similar, usually hidden, grief. It can manifest outwardly in angry responses to questions, suddenly cancelled appointments, and other awkward sales situations.

Please don’t take their actions personally. They might be receptive again after the new year begins.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

#lynnselwa #therocketsciencecoach #christmastime #grief

 

 

Thank you

Tomorrow marks my 4th anniversary of publishing this blog.

After several hours of writing and refining the story, my heart was pounding as I clicked “Publish” on that first post. I felt vulnerable and hoped the public would treat me kindly as I learned the basic concepts of blogging. I launched it the day I submitted my final markups to my first article in “Networking Times” magazine.

This blog has been a way for me to build on ideas in that original article, as well as a thought-provoking way to share my observations about our industry. I appreciate your time as you read and respond to my posts. Thanks for being kind to this rookie blogger! I look forward to sharing insights with you during the upcoming 12 months.

Wishing you the very best,
LYnn