Category Archives: Personal Stories

Pinching the buds

We planned the garden during the bitter cold days of winter. I had visions of fresh strawberries, so my mom ordered the plants.

After the last frost we broke ground to expand last year’s garden, so we had plenty of room to grow strawberries. Removing sod, hoeing, and loosening the dirt to accept the plants. Watering every evening.

The sweet fruits would be our reward.

Then May arrived, and the plants began to blossom.

Then my mom broke the bad news to my 12-year-old self.

“We have a choice. If we want strawberries this year, we can let the blossoms open and get pollinated. We will have a crop in June.”

I was nodding my head excitedly.

“But.. if we do that, the plants will never get bigger. We will only have small crops, and that won’t be much fun to split a small number of strawberries among the five people in our household. To get a bigger crop, I have to pinch the blooms off… that will force the plant to send out runners, and starting next year we will have a huge crop throughout June.”

I sadly agreed, and it was hard to watch the strawberries not produce any fruit that first year. My friends asked in June, How many strawberries did you get? And when I told them ‘none,’ they asked me, “Why did you bother planting any in the first place? You can get stawberries at the store for a lot less work.”

But during that second summer… I was glad my mom pinched those buds the year before. We had one of the largest strawberry plots in our neighborhood. And plenty of fruit to pick and eat– twice a day– during June, for nearly a decade.

Sometimes in our businesses we want to enjoy the fast fruit. Spending our initial profits (plus more) on a flashy outfit, tech toy, or costume jewelry. Figuring out how to build one-time bonus income to boost our checks so our income equals or surpasses our job paycheck. Deciding what to do to get promoted faster, at the expense of building a solid residual income.

Where in your business activities do you need to “pinch the buds”?

Certainly it’s fine to enjoy some of the fruits of the labor in the early days. But consistently prioritizing short-term “flash” over long term stability will stunt the growth of the organization. …Or at least create roots that rot, seemingly suddenly.

Enjoy some of the profits, and focus your efforts on long-term growth.

The satisfaction has a sweeter taste when it follows self-chosen, self-disciplined actions.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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The bright side

My neighbors were noisy early this morning. I awoke suddenly in the dark and reached for the clock. 5:04am. I could hear the muted thump of a stereo system and feel the bed shake nearly continuously. (and when I discover which of the 20+ flats it was coming from, I will talk to them during the day, when everyone is calm.)

Needless to say, that was the unplanned early end of my night.

Being up early is unusual for me. You see, like many people reading this blog, I earn Roll-Over Money. I’m a night owl by inclination, which means I would rather stay up late than get an early start on the day.

So being jerked awake earlier than planned can put me in a foul mood.

To turn around a state of mind that was quickly sliding toward seething anger, I literally asked myself, “How can I take advantage of being up early?”

Two answers popped into my mind: submit the product orders that I had planned to do today, and post a photo/Facebook Live if the sunrise ends up looking spectacular.

I submitted the product orders…and it was still “yesterday” at the company headquarters, due to the difference in time zones. Who says time travel isn’t possible?

And the sunrise was spectacular. Hence a photo of the vivid orange and yellow painted sky, which my social media followers have been enjoying for more than 5 hours.

Here’s my question for you: When things go awry, how can you turn it around?

After all, Ma Ingalls has a philosophy in the “Little House on the Prairie” books: There is no loss without some gain.

Today I’m glad I was able to think on the bright side, like the pioneers in those books.

(or, if you prefer music over prose, Monty Python has a song along those lines. You’re welcome for the “ear worm.”)

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Say “Awe!”

In the northern hemisphere, many people are decorating their homes and windowsills with holiday lights and ornaments.

Menorahs gleam in ever-increasing candlelight.

White and colored tiny lights blink a welcome.

Here in Germany, the recent coating of snow makes many old half timber buildings look like a classic Christmas card.

Wherever you are in the world, my wish for you this week is that you find a moment where you stop and take a gasp of wonder at a beautiful sight.

A cat bumping heads with the person holding it.

A child’s delighted laughter.

The sunlight suddenly illuminating your favorite tree.

And if this season of celebration is painful for you, you might be comforted by last week’s post.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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A beautiful and brutal time of year

In early 2014 my parents in law perished in an automobile accident.

I hoped that the 2014 Christmas season would be less brutal than I was cautioned to expect.

Wrong.

That year I could barely handle looking at holiday decor and sentiments, which is tough when one’s business deals squarely with those themes in the biggest financial quarter of the year.

I recall handling my clients’ requests with calmness and friendliness, but frequently after hanging up the phone or coming home after a meeting, I would cry from grief.

Subsequent years have been easier, but always include twinges of bittersweet memories.

If this describes you, know you are not alone.

Nowadays I look forward to the snow, low nighttime light, and the surge of friendly tidings of friends and strangers. I enjoy helping people select their items for purchase from our web site and giving pointers about designing their personal greetings of the season.

This season tends to heighten emotions, whether of past celebrations, current friends and family, or of those left behind or gone.

Regardless of what your product or service is, at least some of your clients and potential clients are experiencing similar, usually hidden, grief. It can manifest outwardly in angry responses to questions, suddenly cancelled appointments, and other awkward sales situations.

Please don’t take their actions personally. They might be receptive again after the new year begins.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Thank you

Tomorrow marks my 4th anniversary of publishing this blog.

After several hours of writing and refining the story, my heart was pounding as I clicked “Publish” on that first post. I felt vulnerable and hoped the public would treat me kindly as I learned the basic concepts of blogging. I launched it the day I submitted my final markups to my first article in “Networking Times” magazine.

This blog has been a way for me to build on ideas in that original article, as well as a thought-provoking way to share my observations about our industry. I appreciate your time as you read and respond to my posts. Thanks for being kind to this rookie blogger! I look forward to sharing insights with you during the upcoming 12 months.

Wishing you the very best,
LYnn

A leap made with eyes wide open

In March my husband accepted a permanent position in Germany.

We discussed such a move for several years, and then a fabulous job opening became available in January.  So we jumped at the chance.

After our transatlantic flight in late July, we are settling into life in southwest Germany, and I continue to run my network marketing business which is incorporated in the USA.

I will be posting stories about networking in a new language and other business topics in the coming months!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Congratulate yourself in advance

Here’s one of my favorite motivational activities.

Pick a goal: a rank/pin level, income, or other goal.

Create a real greeting card congratulating you on accomplishing your goal, written from the point of view of someone powerful you respect. Examples are: your favorite business speaker, your higher power, the Universe, your favorite philosopher (living or deceased), your future self.

Yes, I mean go to the store and buy a physical greeting card, make one yourself, or use an online system that prints and mails one for you.

Important: make sure it is made of stiff paper and the fold is on the side. (That way it will stand up on its own for weeks or months.)

Not sure what to say? Here’s an idea:

“Dear Jane, you are awesome! I always knew you would become an Executive with your company, and I’m very happy you accomplished that goal. Congratulations! ” and sign it with their FIRST name, as if you were very good friends.

Now mail it to yourself. I’m serious– put a stamp on it and mail it to your address.

When you see it in the delivered mail, you will likely get a instant lift in mood.

Open it and set it in a private place — for example, display it in your at-home office or your bedroom. (NOT where co-workers or the general public can see it)

Imagine that person or being saying those words to you aloud, with great pride and warmth in their voice.

Put the card away the next morning.

Here’s the real secret: at the end of a hard day, set the card on your kitchen table or other private area of your home (maybe your dresser or nightstand). When you see the greeting card in the morning, if you’re like me, you’ll get a burst of happiness from seeing it. Savor the feeling of accomplishment and happiness.

When I was working diligently toward my now-current rank, I created 6 such greeting cards with different congratulatory messages. When I walked into my at-home office the morning after a hard day (or in the final days of working focused toward the goal), I got that burst of energy and happiness.

Repeat as many times as you please.

And please, do not pretend to other people that the signatures or messages are actually from those famous people… this activity is just between you and the 4 walls of your private room.

The power of this technique comes from setting out the cards occasionally, deliberately, AND in a private room.

Use it wisely.

Even more fun: after reaching that goal, you likely will receive congratulatory greeting cards or letters. Set these on display every evening until you get tired of seeing them!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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