Category Archives: Motivational

Two controversial ways to break procrastination

I procrastinate.

When I do, I typically am behaving in one of two typical ruts:

Rut #: I promised myself some fun, and I didn’t follow through. “After I finish _(work or tasks)_______, I’ll watch that episode/movie.” … but I keep adding to the task list and pushing off the reward.

Rut #2: I procrastinated so much that after I finished the critical tasks of the day, I didn’t have time to watch the movie. (This mode usually arises after several days in a row of Rut #1 and getting to bed after midnight.)

Regarding Rut #1… this is a pattern of working a whole lot, whether on my business, household upkeep, or assorted personal needs.

To correct this imbalance I decide on a length of time to work and an amount of time to do as I please. I write these on paper  (such as, Work 30 minutes, then 5 minutes to do non-work of my choice).

I set a timer and let IT be the determination of when I work and when I’m doing as I please. A timer takes away the distraction of  watching the clock, and it will alert me if I’m deeply concentrating. It’s the fair third-party “referee.”

When the timer chimes, if I choose to keep working, I decide on a new time, reset the timer, and on paper I also add that same amount of time onto the pause. AND I set the timer to control the amount of time I’m doing non-work, too. For example, I start with a written agreement to work 30 min and have Me-Time of 5 minutes. If I end up working for 45 minutes, I then immediately receive 35 minutes of Me-Time.

After several days of this timed behavior, I typically am willing to work longer times at a stretch (up to 90 minutes, which seems to be my willing upper limit) and require a break of 15 minutes maximum. That’s a ratio of 3: 1 (work time to “Me-Time”)

Rut #2 is a different animal. In this mode, most of my time is occupied with time “off”, usually with rebellion behavior (escape behavior such as mindlessly scrolling through social media).

When I realize I’m in Rut #2, I think very hard: what activity would REFRESH me, not just entertain me or let me “escape?” I know I find a worthy answer when I feel happy and excited about the activity. I then set aside time directly after breakfast (or as early in the day as reasonable) with a large (hour or more) block of time to do precisely that. This is what I nickname the “Fun First” approach.

When you procrastinate, are you working too much and pushing off the fun (Rut #1), or are you doing rebellion activities (Rut #2)?

Be aware of which pattern you typically slide into.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Quality vs Quantity

As I get older I notice I am much more interested in quality.

For example, quality relationships. When people reciprocate when asked for reasonable help occasionally, and more importantly where people interact on a meaningful basis between requests for assistance.

I live in Germany, so the GDPR privacy rules go into effect tomorrow in a direct way for our household. The rules will affect communicating with European Union citizens living abroad, as well as with residents of the EU who hold citizenship of any country in the world (such as myself and my husband).

I have been preparing for the new rules by searching my database for people who meet any of those criteria, then reaching out to them in a typed (nonvoice) way to receive explicit permission to keep them in my (privately-accessed, password protected, stored online) database. I used mobile phone texting, social media private messaging, email, or even mailing them a greeting card.

Most people have been fine with all of it, a few asked me to hold only their name and phone number/email, one asked me to remove her information completely.

Some people have not responded at all.

So after I post this blog entry, I will remove the database entries for the nonresponders. If they reply affirmatively later on, I will be able to add them back. But in the meanwhile, I know not to spend energy on those relationships.

That frees my energy and time to focus on the people who at least give me the courtesy of a positive reply.

Focusing on quality can create an initial wince, and the benefits come afterward.

And, thank you for continuing to subscribe to this blog.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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P.S. I posted a Privacy Statement yesterday. Please read it if you have any concerns regarding how data is handled. Also realize there is an unsubscribe button at the bottom of every emailed notice each time I publish a new blog entry. These options are provided so you have control of information as you interact online.

The powerful ear

Systems aren’t perfect, things break, and websites need fixing.

Those things happen in every company, occasionally.

But where do you complain about the flaws?

On your personal social media? In a distributors-only forum? With the home office department that takes responsibility for implementing changes?

All three speak to powerful people.

The first avenue speaks to the public: the ones who were part of your company or who have yet to join. They might hear an unspoken message of, “This doesn’t work, we’re a so-called ‘hot mess,’ get back to us after we’ve figured out this crisis.” You run the risk of reinforcing any existing stereotypical negative images of your company and profession. In this case you’re impacting the long-term future of the company in a negative way.

The second avenue speaks to the distributors in your company, and the most tender ears there are the newbies. Their responses will likely be more extreme than the seasoned distributors. You run the risk of scaring them away because of your momentary frustration. In this case you’re negatively impacting the immediate and short term growth of the company.

The last avenue speaks to the people who can fix the problem. I know they prefer when people report the cause-and-effect chain of events instead of using inflammatory words to merely complain about it. Like the first avenue, you’re impacting the long-term future of the company. Only these ears are the ones who can implement a solution. So the effect is positive.

Long-term positive wins my vote every day.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

P.S. Leaders: Your clients and distributors should be told about known pitfalls they are likely to encounter. But how can you tell if you are informing versus complaining? See if you agree with my definitions.

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Whom should I tell?

Imagine your company’s web site botched your end-of-week order. You feel angry and frustrated. You have the urge to TELL SOMEONE.

The biggest question to ask yourself is, “Is this complaining, informing, or working toward a solution?”

Complaining: This awful thing is happening! It isn’t fair! Why didn’t someone anticipate this?? (Said with the intent to broadcast far and wide in order to – consciously or not – garner sympathy or stir outrage)

Informing: The website is not functioning correctly. Here’s what to expect and how to work around the issue. (said in a more focused and non-inflammatory way, concentrating on channels used by current users of the site)

Working toward a solution: Hello, I’m using the ABC feature, and when I do DEF, it does UVW. I would like it to do XYZ. (a private and calmly-worded communication from you to the Information Technology department, using details and sequences of events)

The more your communication is private, calm, and feature-focused, the more likely it is to be working toward a solution.

It’s true other distributors should know any pressing issues (relative to their experience level and likelihood of encountering them). However, take care that you are informing them instead of merely stirring up emotions.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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The glow beneath your feet

When we think of being inspired, we tend to think of encouragement and compliments given to us from someone with a higher standing: higher rank in the company, for instance.

Your task, if you choose to accept it:  think about encouragement you received from someone in your company whose promotion-level rank is lower than yours (or equal to yours if you are just starting out).

Reach out to one such person this week in a text, message, card, or phone call. Let them know how their words positively affected you.

I’ve experienced that action from highly-ranked distributors in my company, and it’s flattering. It also taught me that I have something of value to contribute, regardless of my rank within the company.

Go ahead, make their day!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Your Two Tribes

When you do your work with excellence in a public sphere, you will gain two types of positive-minded tribes.

The first tribe is the Fan Tribe. Fans encourage you, cheer for your newest product, and sometimes refer other people to you. These people feed your mental state with uplifting words and click Like on your posts.

The second tribe is the Buying Tribe. These people cast a financial “vote” by purchasing what you’re selling. On the flip side, they may or may not tell anyone else about your product.

Typically there is overlap between the tribes. Some Fans quickly or gradually join the Buyers. Some Buyers become outspoken Fans of your product.

The challenge is to avoid becoming upset when a person wants to be only a Fan.

I know good words don’t pay the mortgage. And it may seem disappointing that someone who praises your product (and could likely be helped by it) won’t take the extra step to buy it. However, Fans are fertile sources for word-of-mouth referrals, which is the most trusted form of advertising in our modern economy.

Be sure to thank your Fans and be grateful for them. They typically lead you to your Buying Tribe.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Coaching the cruel voice

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy.

You said you were going to send 3 texts every day… but you failed! Now you need to do SIX tomorrow, to stay on track.

You didn’t enroll a customer/distributor this week! And you made a goal to do that!!

You’ve worked for HOW MANY months and haven’t been able to retire? How many people did you ask, who told you “no”? Maybe you’re not cut out for being a business owner.

Goals are typically prods to help us stay focused on the business-building opportunities.

When does the prodding become cruel?

When it ignores the good stuff. When it pooh-pooh’s the steps we DID take in the right direction. When it applies a self-defeating label whose adhesive seems impossible to fully remove.

That voice only cares about perfection … and it has derailed untold numbers of leaders-in-the-making.

Sometimes the voice comes from people whom we thought we could count on. And more importantly, sometimes it comes from within us and its hurtful barbs reverberate inside our heads.

As leaders of our teams, we have to teach our distributors how to tame their destructive mental voices, if we want them to look inward for support and rely less on what the world advises.

I stumbled upon this article today. If we bear in mind that it assumes nonviolent relationships with mentally stable people, it has some fabulous insights for talking to and coaching our teammates. It’s also applicable for the distributor who is struggling with this destructive inner voice … or encounters the same hurtful tone from their current group of friends and family.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

P.S. If you are in, or suspect you are in, a business or social relationship with a person who demonstrates or threatens violence toward you, please contact a mental health professional or trusted law enforcement agent immediately.

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