Category Archives: Motivational

What does boredom cause?

Note: If you are struggling with perpetual defeating thoughts such as”why is everyone so happy” or “they would be better off without me,” please call your medical doctor or visit an hospital emergency room immediately. These thoughts sometimes get stronger and more unbearable around the end-of-year holidays. I may not know you in person, but I assure you that You Matter In This World.  –LS

 

Today I spotted a blog entry regarding boredom, claiming it is a direct cause of depression and suicide. I’m a long-time reader of his work, and he’s no stranger to bold yet thoughtful statements, most of which I respect because of the critical thinking skills he applies in developing them. Today I definitely disagree with his viewpoint. Here are the comments I posted.

“I disagree about boredom as a cause of depression or suicide. Clinical depression and suicidal thoughts are symptoms of an urgent medical situation, and I urge people experiencing those to seek a medical doctor or an emergency room for help, immediately.

When people are perpetually bored, that typically signals being in a rut. I agree that introspection can be helpful in discovering what one truly wants out of life, and those discoveries can uncover some uncomfortable realizations about one’s past decision-making and behavior.

However, for the person who is experiencing suicidal thoughts or clinical depression (not a mild ‘down in the dumps’), self-introspection can easily lead to rumination, which makes the situation worse. The therapist’s job includes guiding the introspection and logical thinking in ways that dig deep yet keep the person’s mind from being a weapon turned against oneself. The very process of therapy typically includes examining every belief one has. (I use the word ‘typically’ here, because there are many modes of psychotherapy.)

I don’t think public speaking is truly people’s number one fear.

Deep introspection is.

Only the brave attempt it, either on their own or with a therapist. Only the bravest make the changes it indicates.”

If you are examining your path in any aspect of your life, I send you strength and courage.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Are we expecting results that can’t happen?

I stumbled across a video by Mel Robbins, titled “How to stop screwing yourself over.” She talked about a fact: You’re never going to feel like taking actions in your life that supposedly lead to the results you desire.

Even if you WANT to. Even if you have a big incentive to. The brain hates change, and emotion by itself is simply not enough to propel us into action. (and if it lasts long enough, it might even have the opposite effect! Watch the video for more detail.)

You have to motivate yourself to take the physical action, instead of waiting to “feel motivated.”

Her observation triggered an interesting idea in my mind:

In the business-self-development arena, are we expecting the feelings generated from vivid visualization to do something they are incapable of doing?

Let me explain.

Common goal-setting advice includes vividly imagining achieving the goal in order to generate joy and excitement.

As a technically-educated person, I know thoughts (electric impulses in the brain) create a magnetic field, and magnets induce electric current in nearby objects that can carry a current (such as another person’s brain, albeit dependent on several conditions).

Visualizing things repeatedly, or simply focusing on one idea, also revs up the Reticular Activating System (RAS), which primes the brain to pay closer attention to similar situations and things that can help manifest the idea.

But… are we expecting those uplifting emotions to generate the internal motivation?

If emotion itself isn’t enough to generate internal motivation to take action, then what’s missing?

The answer: a decision to begin, otherwise known as generating the Activating Energy.

The thoughts and emotions drive the subtle attractive forces operating externally, but you still have to do your (inner) part by making the decision to take action. I think the joy and excitement (and even a sense of desperation) can inspire a such a decision.

Just don’t expect the emotions to be enough to keep you in motion.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

P.S. If you want more information how magnetism creates electric current (and vice versa), check out this article about Maxwell’s Equations.

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Gratitude for loose-ing

Today is Thanksgiving Day in the USA, a typical time to take stock of what one is grateful for.

Most people catalog the things they have, including good health, family, and friends.

But what about the things you released during the past year?

Destructive eating habits. Clutter in the kitchen. Relationships that dent your confidence.

Outdated views of the world. Doubts about your ability to build a business. Pressuring last Monday’s business presentation recipient to enroll.

I salute your courage. Facing any one of those takes great personal strength.

Celebrating that you willingly let go is as important as remembering what you retain.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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The type of hardness

I believe in hard work, and my ability to do it. –Dara Torres, Medalist in 5 Olympic Games

Do you have a love-hate relationship with “hard work”?

In which way is it “hard”: mentally? emotionally? physically? spiritually?

Regardless of the type of hardness, if I resist it, I get worn down mentally and emotionally.

As my husband sometimes says, “The dread is typically worse than the deed.”

For me, I more willingly do “hard work” when one or more of these is possible:

  1. I recognize that it leads directly toward my goals
  2. I can choose the method, sequence, location, or timing for the work
  3. I see a short-term reward or vividly imagine a long-term benefit that will please ME
  4. The “hard work” will reduce stress immediately afterward, or create a long-term reduction in stress
  5. I’ve had some fun (play a game for a set amount of time, exercise, watching a video) before I begin, and the ability to do something fun immediately afterward ( I call this the “Fun Sandwich” approach)
  6. I set a timer (or count aloud) to see exactly how long it really takes. I race the clock or simply celebrate that it “only took x number of minutes” (It’s weird, but it works for me!)

Which of the conditions are important for you?

Which aspects can you incorporate into your business and personal life?

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Ironic skills

I read an interesting article on Quartz this week:

(excerpt)

“What most employers want, [LinkedIn CEO Jeff] Weiner says, are written communication, oral communication, team-building, and leadership skills. “

Isn’t it ironic… the latter three skills are developed by building a network marketing, direct sales, party plan, multilevel, or leveraged income business. And some of those directly incorporate written communication by the customer or distributor in the final product.

The four skills listed can be described as portable skills, which means they are learned in one arena and are applicable in another.

Know someone who needs a job? Send them the link to the article. If they ask for a way to build those skills, offer your business plan as a possible solution.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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How to benefit from good luck, or how to create your own

At some point, good luck requires hard work if success is to be sustained.  –James Clear

Some people do get “lucky.” Their first 3 friends all sign up with no hesitation. They meet a successful yet burnt-out business owner who is ready to jump into something new.

However, good luck makes a strong start but won’t propel you across the finish line.

That is encouraging news for the rest of us.

Even the most “lucky” distributor will need to put focused effort into their business, if they want to keep building. Large organizations and increasing residual income require more than a short-term boost. Consistent effort will keep that momentum going.

And consistent effort can do more for an “average” business than someone riding on the story & results of a “good luck” situation.

Also consider this: you can create a burst of “good luck” by doing a burst of activity.

Many high residual income earners talk about this concept. The idea is, to have an established baseline of business-building activities, and for a set amount of time that YOU decide, to do a “sprint” of those activities. Maybe you choose 30 minutes. Or 3 hours. Or 3 days, 3 weeks, 30/60/90 days. And after the sprint, return to the previous level of activity.

Sprints by nature are not sustainable. They use up a lot of energy in a short time, so no one attempts to run full-speed during the majority of a marathon. But a sprint can grab the finish line glory if you do it at the right time.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Hard, messy, and gorgeous

Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end. -Robin Sharma

Where are you in the process, in your business?

My guess is, you are experiencing all three stages simultaneously.

When we decide to learn about a new technique, we face fears of looking uninformed and acting awkwardly. As we build new skills, the messiness increases. As we master those, we experience the gorgeousness.

Above all, I hope you are finding ways to enjoy the journey.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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