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A better way to handle, “You should have been there!”

Have you ever said, “You should have been there!” to a distributor who didn’t attend the training seminar, convention, or workshop?

I have.

And it dents the self esteem of the receiver. It implies, You make bad decisions.

Here’s a more respectful way to express your excitement about attending that recent event… and increase the likelihood of them coming to the next one.

(This technique was taught by Sean G. Murphy, who spoke at the recent Association of Network Marketing Professionals conference.)

Newbie: So how was the conference?

You: “Words don’t express it. You know I was tasked to ask, what was that goal, that thing you were working on, that thing you wanted to learn at the seminar?” [then pause and wait for their answer.]

You: [say it lovingly and respectfully] “They talked about that. When can we sit down and review my notes about that?”


By NOT “rubbing it in” with claims of “you should have been there,” you surprise them, because they were expecting some sort of “you should have been there” statement.

By focusing on what they want to learn, you demonstrate your willingness to help them succeed.

By offering to sit down and share your knowledge, you elevate yourself as a resource in their eyes and as a person who will add value to their lives.

And… they are much more likely to attend the next event, because you treated them with respect.

I like it, and I’m going to use this technique.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

P.S. I read recently that using Camelback Case (CapitalizingEachWordInAChain) helps assisted reading devices read the hashtags more accurately. It helps people who have limited sight or who have blindness to read and enjoy one’s posts. So I will be writing my hashtags like that starting now.

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Difference and the second question

Different is better than better.  –Tyra “Banx” Banks, personal branding lecturer at Stanford University

Let’s climb into the mind of your potential customer or potential distributor.

We’ve been in a discussion why your company’s product is better than any similar product on the marketplace. So far, yours looks the best to solve my problem.

Now you are talking on the level of uniformity again. You and all your colleagues who are marketing the same company’s products… what makes you different from each other?

In other words, how will your uniqueness help me use the product or build a team?

This is an interesting set of questions for you as a distributor.

When you talk about your unique qualities, be sure to describe them in terms of how you will help or honor the potential customer/distributor.

For example, you might be one of only a handful of engineers in your company. Go further and describe how your background is an advantage to them:

In my (previous/current) work as an engineer, I am trained to pay close attention to details and to teach things methodically. I believe the details are important and I will do my best to help you find the answers to your ongoing questions. Of course, too much detail can be overwhelming, so we’ll concentrate on the basic questions of (how you operate your account/run your business).

From my (previous/current) work as a bookkeeper, I know watching the budget is important. Starting a business requires an initial investment and strategic purchases to keep it running. Let’s develop a step-by-step marketing plan, to earn your initial investment back as quickly as possible, so your business is profitable.

In my (previous/current) work as a computer software trainer, I (taught/teach) people how to operate their computers. I (specialized/specialize) in beginners who were scared to touch the machine. After you watch the training videos, if you have questions, I will take you step-by-step to help you learn how to run the app and web site.

“Different” doesn’t have to mean “top of the heap in the company.” Instead, choose advantages from your other work (or hobby) experiences. Those will set you apart, regardless of the rank you hold in your company.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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The danger of faking your dream

In a world that craves digital polishing, we abhor outright deception. We appreciate expanding the future, but not exaggerating the past.

If you slept at the Holiday Inn, please don’t saunter into The Ritz and post photos implying you checked in there.

If you do pose for a few snaps in the lobby or under the awning, have the integrity to tell us, “This time I could afford the coffee and a croissant. I want to stay here for a week. I’m taping this picture onto my Vision Board.”

Dream with us, and we will follow. Deceive us, and trust evaporates.

Better a two-star truth than a five-star fake.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Who would buy from YOU??

“What do YOU know about ____________? You’re a ________________.”

(Fill in the blanks with your product category and current profession.)

Likely that’s a comment you heard, at least during your first year with your current company.

Sometimes inexperience is not an issue: when there’s already trust in the relationship, such as approaching some friends and family when launching your business.

And sometimes it hurts: People looking for a way to “shut you down” because they can’t imagine you changing course to a different career. Business owners who want you to work with your company for months or years before they buy.

But a true professional has a different approach.

Check out Seth Godin’s angle and see if you agree.

I think he nailed it.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Ironic skills

I read an interesting article on Quartz this week:


“What most employers want, [LinkedIn CEO Jeff] Weiner says, are written communication, oral communication, team-building, and leadership skills. “

Isn’t it ironic… the latter three skills are developed by building a network marketing, direct sales, party plan, multilevel, or leveraged income business. And some of those directly incorporate written communication by the customer or distributor in the final product.

The four skills listed can be described as portable skills, which means they are learned in one arena and are applicable in another.

Know someone who needs a job? Send them the link to the article. If they ask for a way to build those skills, offer your business plan as a possible solution.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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How to build “cred” when you don’t have any, Part 2

There are 2 basic types of credibility in your business: inside the company structure (covered in a prior post) and with the potential distributors and clients. Let’s discuss the latter situations, particularly for a first-time business owner.

Part of building your business is to spread the word and gather new people into your organization, whether they join as distributors or clients.

Some of you will be fortunate to have people who join your distributor team or buy your product simply because you asked them to. I envy you, and please understand that I truly am happy for you. However, this post is not written for you, so please send the link to your colleagues who are building their business reputations against mild or strong resistance.

I’m here to talk to the people who are struggling, who are told “You’ve been a (job title) for years, what could YOU possibly know about building a business?”, or for whom this is their first adventure into owning a business.

This post is long. I cover 12 tips. Some of these were hard-earned lessons, and I want to save you the pain of discovering them yourself the hard way. Skim through the bolded topic headings and read the ones that are most interesting to you. Bookmark this post, come back next week, and read a few more.



Do What You Say You’re Going To Do. This guideline is the foundation of all the other tips.

I’m not talking about loud public declarations that you’re going to rank-advance to “starship commander” level in your first 6 months, followed by a too-busy-to-sleep work schedule.

Instead, I mean show dependability in the everyday promises. Send the email if you say you will. Send the text or make the call when you say you will. Start the live broadcast, webinar or group meeting on time, and end on time. Be in “business hours” on the hours you have scheduled for that purpose.

And we all mess up…. when it happens, apologize, do the delayed task that same day, then make extra efforts to be dependable for this person in the future.


Tip 2. You will never be good enough for some people

The faster you accept this fact, the happier you will be along your business journey. You will recognize these people by their actions: if you mess up and sincerely apologize, they never trust you again because they expect nothing less than perfection. Or, they name numerous “conditions” you or the company needs to fulfill before they join your team or purchase your product. When those goals are accomplished, they simply add more conditions. This is otherwise known as “moving the goalpost.”

Even if they don’t join, they will still be watching you. Just smile to yourself and keep working.


Tip 3. Be consistent in your outreach

If you join a networking group, show up every time. Becoming a familiar face will help you be known as someone dependable. It is better to be a member of three groups that you attend regularly, than to join 10 but be sporadic in most or all of them.  Likewise for social media or blogs: post consistently. For example, I post on this blog every Thursday.

Most non-business-focused social media platforms have birthday reminders. If you post a happy birthday message on their social media page, post a personalized messages (with similar impact) for all your contacts on that forum.  Either log in each day to post the current messages, or log in every week and post those messages for the upcoming week. By doing so, you show people you are consistent and you pay attention to details… which add to your credibility.


Tip 4. Connect with your new contact in a memorable way

Texts, emails, and social media messages are quick, but a different approach is needed to stay top-of-mind for the long term.

Consider mailing a nice-to-meet-you physical greeting card to each person you meet in a business environment.

Paper cards may seem “old fashioned” by the major populace, but they have always been in style among people in the high economic brackets and leaders of large corporations.

Sending to those latter groups of people shows you understand the unwritten but important rules of operating as their peer.

The more money people make, the more important it becomes to thank them for their time, which is their most precious resource. If you wish to attract high income earners or influential business owners into your distributor team or have them as clients, DO THIS STEP.

With more and more companies adopting Relationship Marketing philosophies, personalized paper greeting cards are making a comeback.

With nearly everyone, paper cards will make you memorable in a good way, because people rarely receive fun mail. (When’s the last time you received something other than a bill or an advertisement in your postal box?) Many will display the card on their desk or somewhere in their home for months or years.

Avoid sending the note on business stationary… it’s not a memo or a financial quote for a project!

Use an online service that prints your quickly-typed personal message into a greeting card and physically mails it on your behalf, or buy some cards at the local store. If the recipients are from the same company, it’s fine to use the same cover design, but remember to use a unique personal message for each as they are likely to compare cards.

Please be aware that USA people born after approximately 1980 were NOT taught how to write or read cursive handwriting! So if in doubt, neatly print the body of the message, and sign it in a cursive style.


Tip 5. Choose ONE company to represent

Credible people focus on one business. If I want to choose an expert so I get good advice, I choose someone who concentrates their business on that area or that company. The ideal is, when people at networking events hear your company name, YOU come to mind.


Tip 6. Have a long-term view (be committed to your business 3 years minimum)

Longevity with ONE company shows people you’re serious about this. You automatically gain credibility by simply sticking around!

Your company’s product or service is the cornerstone of its profitability. A business, by definition, SELLS a product or service to generate revenue. So, do you LIKE the product? Are you proud to use it? Would you buy it if you weren’t getting paid to market it? If you can’t offer an enthusiastic Yes to all three questions in your current company, keep searching until you find a product that can.

Are you dismayed by the wait-and-see attitude of your family, friends, or networking contacts? Perhaps your friends and family have seen you excited about projects, then 2 weeks later you have moved onto something else. It’s likely that the people you are meeting at networking events have seen their friends join and quit in quick succession for various leveraged sales companies. In both cases there’s nothing you can do about their opinions. However, multiple-year longevity speaks for itself (and sometimes you need to remind yourself of Tip 2)!

Please note that I understand some people choose to move to other companies. I understand and respect people who change when the product quality degrades significantly, or the upper management steers the company away from long-term healthy growth. Know that you WILL lose some of your credibility by moving to a different company, and you will lose even more by quitting the profession altogether.

If you quit, your customers might choose to stay… and sometimes that locks you out of approaching them about your new product line (due to noncompete clauses for your former and/or new company). Don’t think you can ignore those noncompetes… the parent companies protect their organizations and will proceed with legal action. Besides it damages your credibility once the word gets out (and it will)!

Think twice or three times about jumping to another company because of the “shiny new thing” syndrome or because they are offering large “fast money.” If you want something to excite you again, take an adventurous vacation instead of jumping ship.


Tip 7. Be a connector

Think about the people in your networks: colleagues, networking groups, religious groups, sports clubs, etc. When you meet a new person, ask yourself, “Who in my network needs to meet this person?” Invite them both to coffee, or host a videoconference among the three of you if they are geographically remote. They will remember you were the one to connect them, which builds your credibility.


Tip 8. Be a continual student of your company and your profession

When your company announces a new product or service offering, learn about it. Keep your team and clients informed if your company does not send timely announcements. Think about your clients or potential clients who can be aided by this new offering, and let them know it is available.

You lose credibility if a colleague or potential teammate mentions the new offering and you have no idea what they are talking about!


Tip 9.  Share information THEY are looking for

People are more than their job or business. Find out what they like to do for fun. “What do you like to do when you’re NOT working?” is a good question to ask. For example, when you learn someone likes kayaking, you can send them links to kayaking articles or announcements about a kayaking specialist coming to town. They may already know, but guaranteed they will be impressed that you remembered their hobby AND you took the time to share the tidbit. By doing so, you stay top of mind, and that creates a reputation of credibility automatically.


Tip 10. Look for ways you can write articles or post instructional videos

If you have a business-focused social media profile (different from your personal profile), you can post business-focused articles you write.

Does your local Chamber of Commerce, networking group, country club, school alumni association, or other organization publish an electronic newsletter? Most of these are looking for quality content, but be advised they will reject a self-promoting article. If you can write about your area of expertise/experience in general terms (such as the importance of applying sunscreen to prevent premature skin damage), then in your end-of-article author’s bio you can usually give people a way to reach you. And in this digital age, people can search for your name online and find your web site.

Posting videos on easily-searchable platforms is another way to gain credibility. That’s not my area of concentration, so search for instructors if you’re interested in this aspect.

Slow: Self-publishing a book (electronically or print) is a major multi-month or multi-year step. Such a project is, quite frankly, a distraction until you have advanced at least 2 ranks in your current company. I have talked with authors who are distributors in our profession, and they say they spent much more money than they made on publishing a book.


Tip 11. Speak well regarding your colleagues, other companies, or their distributors

You might get away with badmouthing in the short term, but when people find out this tactic you will become known as “two-faced,” and that automatically damages your credibility. At the same time, you are not obligated to speak in rousing terms about other companies, so I suggest you take a respectful positive tone when asked about them or when referring to them.


Tip 12. Say a sincere thank you.

Express your sincere verbal thanks immediately. Look them in the eye, say “Thank you,” and hold their gaze for another 2 seconds while you naturally let your mouth curve into a genuine and friendly smile. Connect with that person visually so they FEEL your sincerity.

If you want to make a longer-lasting impression, send a physical greeting card of gratitude. The higher up in the economic or business-decision-making level, the more appreciative the person will be to receive a physical card. And clients should definitely be thanked for their initial purchase, once a year minimum thereafter, and unexpectedly at least one time during the year. See a business profitability firm’s study to increase profits. See Tip 4 for guidelines for writing and sending cards.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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How to build “cred” when you don’t have any, Part 1

Imagine you’ve been an employee, and you just clicked “Submit” on the distributor enrollment form.

You have been an employee all your adult years. You have zero credibility and zero experience as a business owner with your potential new teammates and potential clients.

You also have a second “zero cred” situation: within your own company structure.

How can you build your credibility from scratch?

Let’s look at the inside-your-company situation first. (I will address ideas for the other situation in another post.)

I will share 7 ideas in this post.

This will be long, and I feel it will be worth your time. You might want to bookmark this entry, read the numbered subject lines, then read the details about the sections that apply to your situation.

  1. Have high rank or experience running a successful company
    Credibility inside a company comes most obviously from someone who has achieved a high rank. This can be a top-notch field leader or someone in the C-suite (corporate officer such as COO, CEO, CTO, CFO). If you ran a successful business before, you likely have some credibility. However, if you’re starting at the beginning distributor level with no experience, you score zip (zero) here.


2. Submit suggestions for internet or other company process

Submitting thoughtful suggestions for improvement to your web site or company process is another avenue.  This is powerful when you have personally experienced the situation.

Basic Rule: Experience or observe other people’s experience, THEN submit the idea.

Notice I didn’t mention “improvements to the compensation plan.” If you reach out with ideas about the comp plan as a newly enrolled distributor, your suggestion will likely be dismissed out of hand. So make notes of such ideas and save them for when you have advanced a rank or two.

Find out where distributors are welcome to submit suggestions to the corporate office or field leader. This is likely an email address or a web-form in your distributors-only section of your web site.

As a new member of the team, hopefully you are using the company web sites, Slack conversations, social media discussion groups, Zoom conferences, etc., on a daily or weekly basis. While using these tools, notice if something seems awkward, a button or link on the web site is not working properly, etc. Please make notes right away (write or type it, that way you’ll remember it!), and use the company-provided suggestion-collecting method to submit it (AND A SOLUTION if possible).

Here’s a suggested wording for submitting a suggestion , and a possible solution:

When I [specific action, such as clicked on specifically-named link or button and its location], the system did [result]. Can we please have a [item] that [describe the desired result]. [If you have expertise in that area, you might include a possible solution: A possible solution is____________]

Your name
Your Distributor Number
Your city and state (or other location)

Notice you didn’t gripe. (No one likes people who complain!) Instead, you stated a cause and effect, and described a fix or the desired outcome. This prevents people from feeling defensive if it was their idea in the first place. And you identified yourself as a person who sends respectful and helpful suggestions.

People who send respectful suggestions will build a positive reputation. It sends the signal that you care about the company as a whole, and that you are a solution-focused person, instead of a complainer.


3. In technology communications, add value (and don’t add to the negative)

More and more, companies use technology (social media, Slack, email chains, etc) to make announcements, let distributors ask questions, and let other distributors discuss solutions.

Use these online forums to be a calming and respectful influence. (Please note: Don’t spend umpteen hours surfing these forums. However while you are engaged in them, simply watch for ways you can contribute something of value.)

For example, if someone has a question, direct them to where the answer is located. If you see some negative discussions happening, don’t contribute to the negative; instead, alert the group administrator of the situation.

If appropriate, occasionally share a link to a positive article of interest (such as a third-party praise of the profession or product), an inspiring quote, or a public thank you to someone behind the scenes (observed at your local in-person event or on your customer service line).



4. At in-person events, fix a small problem immediately

Did a sign tip over or fall off the wall? Set it back up, or find some tape and put it back in place.

Seeing someone in a walker or wheelchair struggling with a too-narrow aisle? First ask if they would like assistance, and if they say yes then make the walkway wider or find another route for them.

Someone looks lost? Walk up, smile and shake hands, and ask how you can help.

You get the picture. And don’t make a big deal about it. More than likely an event coordinator saw you do it. And solving small problems can lead to …


5. Submit suggestions AFTER an in-person event

If your company has weekly, monthly, quarterly, or annual in-person events, attend as many as you reasonably can. When you attend the group events or post in the discussion groups, you will be noticed as your face becomes more and more familiar to the leaders who are running these events.

Pay attention to what bugs you, to how the event can be run more easily, to what questions seem to be asked multiple times, etc. Make a quick note about these sticky points when you first notice (otherwise you won’t likely remember them by the end, when the situation becomes “normal” from multiple occurrences or by sheer mental overload from absorbing the information or excitement).

Important: Don’t mention a “we should do it such-and-such way next time” to anyone running the event, during the event. They are focusing on the logistics and situation happening in front of their eyes, and they will almost likely view your idea as a criticism.

So, AFTER the event, send a message to the appropriate decision maker or suggestion-collecting method.

Here’s a formula:

Hi (decision maker/event coordinator name), I attended the (describe the event or events). Thank you for (something they did well during that event. Everyone likes authentic and sincere praise.) I have a suggestion for next time: When (describe situation), can we do (your idea)? I think it would (how it would improve the event for the attendees, guests, or coordinators). (and if applicable: “I would be happy to help implement it.)

Your name

Your Distributor Number
Your city and state (or other location)

Three things are happening here.

First, you are acknowledging their role and contribution to the event, which means you respect the skills and work necessary to plan and run it. You would be shocked how few people receive ANY praise, even simple sincere thanks, about their role. (Just ask anyone helping at the event, after the fact!) The typical attendee only speaks up when they’re displeased, so you will immediately stand out in a positive way.

Second, you show that you attended the event. This demonstrates your commitment to the public/group aspects of your business, and leaders appreciate those who show up to attend the event they took time to plan and hold. If you show up consistently, they WILL notice.

Third, every leader appreciates someone to step forward and offer to implement a new or different procedure. Leaders can drown in a flood of complaints and suggestions. If you are given the approval, then do it. Your leadership reputation (and hence credibility) will grow.



6. Contact the event leader one week early and offer to volunteer

Volunteer to help out at in-person events: arrive early to set up or stay late to help clean up, be an usher, assist at the registration table, introduce yourself to distributors who seem alone and introduce them to the leaders (if this is within your company guidelines). Volunteering is especially helpful if you have attended one or more of this specific event, so you are familiar with the basics of how it is run, so no one will have to spend long minutes describing the basic event flow to you.

By contacting the leader a week early, it gives the leader time to figure out where they need you most and to get you trained so you are a helpful member of the team. If you ask on the spot, you are catching them off-guard because they are no longer in future-planning mode, they are in what-needs-my-attention-right-now mode. Your on-the-spot offering is kind, yet likely distracting to the people who need to focus.

Be humble when you are assigned a specific role for your first volunteer session. Do what is asked, provided it doesn’t adversely impact your health (don’t set out or stack chairs if it might throw out your back!). And if your talents are better used in a different role, suggest it several days after the event or during the planning stages of the next one.

Through the simple act of helping run some aspect of the event, your personal credibility rises among the leader in charge AND with any guest you bring. You are demonstrating your willingness to contribute to the group’s success, and that success is exactly what a constructive leader aims for.



7. Fill out the after-event survey

Does the event you attended hand out or send out a survey/suggestions form? Be sure to fill it out and submit it. Nearly everyone will “not have the time”… and by filling out this form authentically and respectfully, you will be among a TINY percentage of people who do this. The leaders who run the event will know and remember your name for doing this.

During my years of assisting at and running weekly public business presentations and distributor trainings, I craved hearing honest opinions: what we did well and how we could improve to make the event more valuable to the attendees. I felt we did a good job, and also that there’s always room for improvement. The more relevant your event is, and the more distractions or problems you eliminate for your attendees, the more successful your result will be.


That’s plenty for now! I will publish a Part 2 another week, which will focus on building credibility with people who are looking at the business or product.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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When you ask them to join

Expect a “yes.” Respect a “no.”

–Rob Sperry, Network Marketing inspirational speaker

I adore this advice. It gives me a mindset of expecting good things to happen, yet takes the pressure off me to “create” a yes. It lets the potential teammate move toward what I’m offering and join our team, instead of me trying to “bring them onto the team.”

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

#lynnselwa #therocketsciencecoach #whenyouaskthemtojoin #questions #leadership #mindset #networkmarketing #mlm #directsales #partyplan #leveragedsales

Looking at “Balance” in a new way

In many discussions regarding building a business, the terminology of “balance” gets thrown around.

Advice varies: from “You should pursue balance in your life” to “Forget balance, you have to go way out of balance to get anything big done in life.”

I think either extreme is unhelpful.

What if we approached “balance” as a system of maintaining many issues, while expanding our efforts on one or two ideas?

The idea is, don’t completely drop the things that are foundational while you pursue a big project.

The foundational items are the ones whose effects are seen long-term.

If we ignore eating healthy because it takes “too much time to cook,” eventually the hamburgers and soft drinks will catch up to us… through low energy levels, high blood pressure, and the subtle-yet-important effects of lack of minerals.

If we skip the workouts because “going to the gym doesn’t put money in my wallet,” eventually our energy levels fall and our thought processes become sluggish.

If we consistently spend little quality time with our families for an extended period of time, eventually they pull away from us.

But when we’re concentrating on building the business, SOMETHING has to be put aside.

For each of us, that “Something” may be different.

I suggest you look at the things that entertain but do not create strong leadership skills. I’m speaking of zoning out in front of the tv every night, spending hours scrolling through social media, or playing video games for hours on end. Every person has their weakness.

Be selective. Don’t give something up entirely if you truly enjoy it, because austerity  usually backfires.

For example, what if you choose ONE hour of tv to watch per day, or per week? What tv show REALLY inspires you? (I bet it’s not the news.) Record it with Tivo it and watch it afterward, (even immediately afterward if you suspect your willpower might falter while watching the live broadcast.) And if you truly feel you need the news to stay informed, listen to it in the car on the way to work, or view news articles while riding public transit. (Remember to use earphones while riding the train or bus!)

If you enjoy social media, perhaps set a timer (not just watch the clock) to allow yourself to indulge in your favorite platform for a set time (perhaps 10 minutes). Let the timer be the “bad guy.” Then set the timer to keep track until you allow yourself another social media surfing time (say, in 60 minutes).

Make a rule that helps you: for example, during the workday, if you mostly work from your computer, make your rule that you will only look at social media from your phone. During worktimes log out of the app, don’t let the app save your password, and remove the app from the background processes. If possible, put your phone across the room (so you have to get up to reach it), or put it in another room.

Make it a little difficult to “just check in for a moment.” Turn off notifications. Set a password that is about 10-15 characters long, remembering to NOT let the app save your password, and if you want to log in you will type it. I do this, because I use my phone to send texts as part of my marketing outreach, and sometimes out of boredom or frustration I find myself tapping the app to look at social media… but by the time I am nearly finished typing the long password, I consciously realize what I’m doing, so then I stop myself… at least until the timer rings.

Here are some other ideas.

If you have young children, is it necessary for you to watch every practice? Would it be OK to use some of that time to make phone calls or send business-building texts while sitting on the bleachers or in the car… however, be sure to have phone turned off and be fully present for the recitals and big games. Be there for the milestones.

If eating healthy is important but cooking takes a long time, consider cooking in big batches and freezing some meal-sized portions. My parents call this “making Big Food.” On your “working evenings” you simply reheat the frozen portion and serve with a shortcut-healthy side dish (like prewashed bagged salad). Or 1-2-3 nights a week you get takeout, and those are the evenings you spend working your business.

Something’s gotta give when you put major hours toward building a business. I hope these ideas give you inspiration to flex your schedule in a healthy way.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

#lynnselwa #therocketsciencecoach #trsc #balance #lookingatbalanceinanewway

The powerful ear

Systems aren’t perfect, things break, and websites need fixing.

Those things happen in every company, occasionally.

But where do you complain about the flaws?

On your personal social media? In a distributors-only forum? With the home office department that takes responsibility for implementing changes?

All three speak to powerful people.

The first avenue speaks to the public: the ones who were part of your company or who have yet to join. They might hear an unspoken message of, “This doesn’t work, we’re a so-called ‘hot mess,’ get back to us after we’ve figured out this crisis.” You run the risk of reinforcing any existing stereotypical negative images of your company and profession. In this case you’re impacting the long-term future of the company in a negative way.

The second avenue speaks to the distributors in your company, and the most tender ears there are the newbies. Their responses will likely be more extreme than the seasoned distributors. You run the risk of scaring them away because of your momentary frustration. In this case you’re negatively impacting the immediate and short term growth of the company.

The last avenue speaks to the people who can fix the problem. I know they prefer when people report the cause-and-effect chain of events instead of using inflammatory words to merely complain about it. Like the first avenue, you’re impacting the long-term future of the company. Only these ears are the ones who can implement a solution. So the effect is positive.

Long-term positive wins my vote every day.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

P.S. Leaders: Your clients and distributors should be told about known pitfalls they are likely to encounter. But how can you tell if you are informing versus complaining? See if you agree with my definitions.

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