Move the goalpost

Have you taken a deep and candid look at your vision board or goal sheet lately?

I used to want a fancy sportscar … but now we live in Europe and enjoy fast & comfortable public transit. We are whisked along the rails past rush hour gridlock. There is little on-the-street parking and few parking lots. A car has become more of a liability than a pleasure.

Some of the goals I set years ago also involve people and animals who have since passed away… needless to say it’s time for me to rewrite or drop them.

And I’m simply not interested in some goals anymore.

It’s okay to release a goal.

If you feel resistance to dropping one you no longer want, ask yourself, “Whom am I trying to impress with this goal?”

Be willing to let go someone else’s ideal of your success.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Speaking in opposites

Business language can be backwards in its approach.

In a recent industry-wide webinar, I observed people speaking about their businesses.

One person used a word starting with the letter k (a synonym for ending life) and he meant it as a compliment of how well he performed a recent presentation to potential business colleagues.

Another talked about massive growth and used a word beginning with b.

(actual words omitted because I don’t need some search engine flagging my blog as violent)

And the presenter challenged the crowd with a common question: “How bad do you want it?”

These statements got me thinking about how our subconscious mind interprets language.

In personal development books and seminars I learned how the subconscious mind interprets language. It is like a 3 or 4 year old child, taking things literally, regardless of how old we are or how many years of school we attended.

So I started asking myself, “Do we really want to end our businesses? Do we want them to expand so quickly and unsustainably that they disintegrate and burn everything in their vicinity?”

Well, not really. Those words are metaphors for enrolling everyone, or for rapidly expanding growth.

And it’s truly not “bad” to want something… it’s another way of saying I want it STRONGLY.

Scoff if you wish at what seems like verbal nit-picking … but realize the center of motivation and goal setting listens to the literal. Yes, your internal toddler controls your goal-setting.

Consider these alternate phrases:

“I wow’d everyone!” “Momentum!” and “How strongly do you want it?” are three suggested substitutions.

Watch your language… it can program you for success or failure, even inadvertently.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Laughing at procrastination

This is the most concise and humorous explanation of procrastination I have found. It’s brilliant.

If you struggle with procrastination, read the two-part article. It describes the cycles that trigger procrastination AND how to thwart a “procrastination distraction” during your worktime.

(If you want suggestions to overcome the “hardest part” of the cycle, skim through “The Willpower Instinct” book by Dr. Kelly McGonigal.)

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Fail like a Texan

(For those of you who like the state of Texas, USA… hold your horses, I’m about to give you a compliment. Keep reading…)

My husband and I completed our first nine months of German language classes this month. Whew! We learned more than 1700 vocabulary words and feel much more confident about holding simple conversations.

However, there were LOTS of times I didn’t know the answer. Or I wasn’t sure of the answer.

But I remembered advice from some of my network marketing mentors who hail from the Lone Star State: “Go Big or Go Home.”

It’s an encouragement, to not be timid about what you do in life. Steer clear of bombast, yet have some neutral-to-confident attitude even when you’re learning. Don’t assume you’re always right… and don’t assume you’re always wrong.

So I decided I could do that with my voice. I forced myself to enunciate clearly and speak in a plenty-loud voice so everyone in the classroom could hear me.

And when wrong, I accepted the correction gracefully.

In learning languages or in business, when you’re starting out (or learning a new skill), you will be wrong a lot before you’re right most of the time. You won’t know all the answers. The product or delivery might need tweaking. You might need to practice more after your second presentation than you did prior to your first.

And you might surprise yourself by how often you’re “right” or moving effectively toward your goal. How even a flawed presentation can enroll new business partners. How being honest that you don’t know the answer can dramatically increase trust.

Speak with a voice that your audience can hear. And be willing to accept your stumbles as part of the process.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Knowledge is not enough

Information, Application, Transformation

— LYnn Selwa, The Rocket Science Coach ™

Rick says…

Impatience doesn’t make the success come any sooner.¬† –singer/songwriter Rick Springfield, in his memoir “Late, Late at Night”

In some ways that quote is freeing. It allows me to confidently drop impatience, just in case I was subconsciously thinking it was helping.

In Rick’s autobiography, he talks about more than 4 albums he recorded that never made a big splash… and in some cases, never saw the light of day.

In one of his numerous dejected mind-slumps, he sought distraction in an artistic-stained-glass course.

Have you ever heard of his hit song, “Jessie’s Girl” ? It was based on a couple taking the same class.

Rick’s a millionaire many times over because he found a way to keep his mind buoyed while his apparent career was sinking… and to take inspiration from what he encountered.

I know there is a philosophy of “massive action” and “being in a hurry” in our profession. “Hurry” refers to YOUR speed. “Impatience” comes from anger at the slower speed of others.

You might have to detour and search for other people to work with, in groups of people you never previously considered, before you find someone who will match your speed… or exceed it.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

P.S. I saw Rick in concert nearly 3 years ago… he walks in the audience on their chairs during one of his songs, shaking hands and hugging fans. That’s the way he prefers to connect with humanity… it’s amazing to see

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Real or echo?

In our profession, we deal with fear on a daily basis. The potential distributor’s fear of the unknown, our fear of rejection. Their fear of not paying the mortgage, our fear of not getting paid.

How much fear is caused by current-moment, accurately-assessed risk?

And how much of it is due to your brain saying, Hey, this reminds me of the last time you… and it didn’t turn out very well¬† ?

In the second case, fear is simply an echo. When you face it over and over, it fades away… and that reconditions your brain to say, Hey, this reminds me of the last time you … and it worked like a charm!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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