What does boredom cause?

Note: If you are struggling with perpetual defeating thoughts such as”why is everyone so happy” or “they would be better off without me,” please call your medical doctor or visit an hospital emergency room immediately. These thoughts sometimes get stronger and more unbearable around the end-of-year holidays. I may not know you in person, but I assure you that You Matter In This World.  –LS

 

Today I spotted a blog entry regarding boredom, claiming it is a direct cause of depression and suicide. I’m a long-time reader of his work, and he’s no stranger to bold yet thoughtful statements, most of which I respect because of the critical thinking skills he applies in developing them. Today I definitely disagree with his viewpoint. Here are the comments I posted.

“I disagree about boredom as a cause of depression or suicide. Clinical depression and suicidal thoughts are symptoms of an urgent medical situation, and I urge people experiencing those to seek a medical doctor or an emergency room for help, immediately.

When people are perpetually bored, that typically signals being in a rut. I agree that introspection can be helpful in discovering what one truly wants out of life, and those discoveries can uncover some uncomfortable realizations about one’s past decision-making and behavior.

However, for the person who is experiencing suicidal thoughts or clinical depression (not a mild ‘down in the dumps’), self-introspection can easily lead to rumination, which makes the situation worse. The therapist’s job includes guiding the introspection and logical thinking in ways that dig deep yet keep the person’s mind from being a weapon turned against oneself. The very process of therapy typically includes examining every belief one has. (I use the word ‘typically’ here, because there are many modes of psychotherapy.)

I don’t think public speaking is truly people’s number one fear.

Deep introspection is.

Only the brave attempt it, either on their own or with a therapist. Only the bravest make the changes it indicates.”

If you are examining your path in any aspect of your life, I send you strength and courage.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Are we expecting results that can’t happen?

I stumbled across a video by Mel Robbins, titled “How to stop screwing yourself over.” She talked about a fact: You’re never going to feel like taking actions in your life that supposedly lead to the results you desire.

Even if you WANT to. Even if you have a big incentive to. The brain hates change, and emotion by itself is simply not enough to propel us into action. (and if it lasts long enough, it might even have the opposite effect! Watch the video for more detail.)

You have to motivate yourself to take the physical action, instead of waiting to “feel motivated.”

Her observation triggered an interesting idea in my mind:

In the business-self-development arena, are we expecting the feelings generated from vivid visualization to do something they are incapable of doing?

Let me explain.

Common goal-setting advice includes vividly imagining achieving the goal in order to generate joy and excitement.

As a technically-educated person, I know thoughts (electric impulses in the brain) create a magnetic field, and magnets induce electric current in nearby objects that can carry a current (such as another person’s brain, albeit dependent on several conditions).

Visualizing things repeatedly, or simply focusing on one idea, also revs up the Reticular Activating System (RAS), which primes the brain to pay closer attention to similar situations and things that can help manifest the idea.

But… are we expecting those uplifting emotions to generate the internal motivation?

If emotion itself isn’t enough to generate internal motivation to take action, then what’s missing?

The answer: a decision to begin, otherwise known as generating the Activating Energy.

The thoughts and emotions drive the subtle attractive forces operating externally, but you still have to do your (inner) part by making the decision to take action. I think the joy and excitement (and even a sense of desperation) can inspire a such a decision.

Just don’t expect the emotions to be enough to keep you in motion.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

P.S. If you want more information how magnetism creates electric current (and vice versa), check out this article about Maxwell’s Equations.

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Gratitude for loose-ing

Today is Thanksgiving Day in the USA, a typical time to take stock of what one is grateful for.

Most people catalog the things they have, including good health, family, and friends.

But what about the things you released during the past year?

Destructive eating habits. Clutter in the kitchen. Relationships that dent your confidence.

Outdated views of the world. Doubts about your ability to build a business. Pressuring last Monday’s business presentation recipient to enroll.

I salute your courage. Facing any one of those takes great personal strength.

Celebrating that you willingly let go is as important as remembering what you retain.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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The METI ™ test vs. The gift-giving scheme

A secret-gift-giving scenario with a Christmas theme has resurrected itself on the internet this week. My goal is to show you how to decide if it’s legitimate.

The description: (how do I write this without triggering a fr@ud alert?) In the scenario, women are asked to send 1 gift of $X to a name they will be given, and there are promises of Y or more gifts in response.

Beyond the US Postal Inspection Service naming it as gambling and mail fraud, physical safety questions, and identification-privacy issues, I wonder why people fall for it (and why some still defend it, even after learning the police warn against it).

I learned from Mariah Nemeth PhD (author of “The Energy of Money”) that the #1 reason for such a decision is…. We humans look for shortcuts, a fast way to create the desired outcome. Our very human drive to “make my life simpler, better, as fast as possible” trips us up, especially when we encounter the subject of money.

But even if we set Dr. Nemeth’s idea aside, how can an ordinary person with no business-analysis experience tell the difference between legitimate requests and Ponzi schemes?

Before launching my first business in my 20’s, I had the same question.

Let’s look at three major sections of launching a business or a Commerce Structure ™ (which I define as a method of giving value, typically financial-based, and receiving some value of any type in response).

I call this the METI ™ Test:

  • YOUR Money
  • YOUR Effort
  • YOUR Time (preparation and after launching) until receiving desired result(s)

All creating a wanted result: Income of money (or other financial value)

I used capital letters to emphasize what you, as an investor or business owner, have to do from conception through reaching the financial break-even point, regardless of the size of your employee staff or distributor team.

Let’s take a look at three Commerce Structures ™ .

Franchise: Your Big: Money, Initial Effort, and Time Commitment. Product Sales Generate the Income.
Lots of time researching and interviewing before signing, lots of money before signup for legal paperwork, lots of money at signup (around a quarter of a million dollars is average), and lots of time and effort to staff and run in its first 3-5 years. You will be lucky to financially break even in the first 3-5 years. Product sales generate the wanted income.

Solo Professional (product or professional service paid via invoice): Your Low-to-medium Money Commitment. Your Big: Effort & Time. Product Sales Generate the Income.
Nearly the same time commitment as franchising, lots of money in education for the proper credentials and/or marketing. You ARE the business, so when you stop working, the money stops coming in. Product sales generate the wanted income.

Mom-and-Pop Retail: Your Low-to-medium Money Commitment. Your Big: Effort & Time. Product Sales Generate the Income.
Nearly the same time commitment as franchising, money at startup will vary, and creating ongoing profitability may be something that you’re continually juggling. Product sales generate the wanted income.

Here’s the pattern.

You must contribute heavily in at least one area, likely 2 or all 3, to successfully launch a business and get it self-sustaining.

Leveraged sales or independent personal distributorships typically require the highest contributions in the Time and Effort categories.

Now consider: How long would each require to cumulatively earn 6 times their initial financial investment?

I’m guessing in terms of years– not months  — for Franchises, Solo Professionals, and Mom-and-Pop Retail.

Let’s return to the secret-gift-giving scenario. The METI ™ test shows:

  • The commitment:  Low Money, Low Effort, Low Time.
  • The claim: Receive 6 times (or more ) your initial investment in two months.

If I described a business that way, would it sound realistic?

Probably not. (Because you’d be asking me, “What’s the catch?”)

For this secret-gift-giving situation, the only way I see money (or money-related value) enter this network of participants is through their initial investment (buying the gift then shipping it; it’s truly “input” when it is received by the other participant). There is a highly imbalanced input of 1 gift into the participant network generating an “income” of 6 or more from that network. Combined, these should signal caution about the stability and fairness-to-latecomers of the model. Adding the Postal Service’s and police’s warnings to the mix, I personally agree this secret-gift-giving scenario is illegal. If it was a “send x number of gifts and receive that same number in response” situation, that is much less questionable.

in summary:

When there is no “Big” commitment in any 3 of “YOUR” areas and your promised returns are significantly higher than your initial investments … and/or your income comes solely from other people’s initial investment, in my personal opinion it signals an illegitimate or illegal situation. In such a case, don’t realistically expect a fast, leveraged, high-quality return. (I am not an attorney and this blog does not constitute legal advice.)

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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P.S. This METI ™ analysis also applies in other areas:

Earning a college degree: Big Money, Effort, and Time. Years to recoup 6 times the initial investment.

Bench pressing twice your weight: Big Effort and Time. I’m guessing years instead of months.

Investing in the stock market: Big Money or Effort or Time. Again, I’m guessing years (the less financial education, the more money and time are required)

P.P.S. I receive no compensation for mentioning Maria Nemeth PhD or her work, nor for any sales generated.

The type of hardness

I believe in hard work, and my ability to do it. –Dara Torres, Medalist in 5 Olympic Games

Do you have a love-hate relationship with “hard work”?

In which way is it “hard”: mentally? emotionally? physically? spiritually?

Regardless of the type of hardness, if I resist it, I get worn down mentally and emotionally.

As my husband sometimes says, “The dread is typically worse than the deed.”

For me, I more willingly do “hard work” when one or more of these is possible:

  1. I recognize that it leads directly toward my goals
  2. I can choose the method, sequence, location, or timing for the work
  3. I see a short-term reward or vividly imagine a long-term benefit that will please ME
  4. The “hard work” will reduce stress immediately afterward, or create a long-term reduction in stress
  5. I’ve had some fun (play a game for a set amount of time, exercise, watching a video) before I begin, and the ability to do something fun immediately afterward ( I call this the “Fun Sandwich” approach)
  6. I set a timer (or count aloud) to see exactly how long it really takes. I race the clock or simply celebrate that it “only took x number of minutes” (It’s weird, but it works for me!)

Which of the conditions are important for you?

Which aspects can you incorporate into your business and personal life?

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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What’s your code?

“Everyone has a code to crack. Once you’ve cracked the code, you are home free.”
Jordan Adler, Top Income Earner and ANMP Trainer

Each of us comes to this profession with different skillsets, experiences, and levels of personal development. Becoming an industry leader with a sustainable residual income demands high competence in many aspects.

For example, public speaking is fun* for me.

For you, maybe not.

But what you do easily might be challenging for me.

As informal coaches of a team, one of our tasks is to evaluate what our newbie’s business-owner-strengths are… and which ones need practice, professional instruction, or partnering via outsourcing.

In his quote, Jordan implies each person’s code, or group of challenges to face, is unique.

Your “code” won’t likely be the answer for someone else’s situation. But if you ask the right questions in a respectful manner, you can help the newbie discover theirs.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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*P.S.   I feel nervous before the speech or presentation– from the moment I agree to do it– but I know I rock on stage. That nervousness drives me to prepare thoroughly. Besides writing and rehearsal prior to the event, I earned a Competent Communicator ranking in Toastmasters. Over the space of 5 years I attended 10+ days of interactive public speaking training, which focused on releasing nervousness-on-stage & bad memories from stage performance experiences in childhood. And when I take the stage, I OWN the platform. It’s simultaneously exhilarating and humbling to deliver a talk. A fun result doesn’t mean the journey was easy.

 

 

 

Ironic skills

I read an interesting article on Quartz this week:

(excerpt)

“What most employers want, [LinkedIn CEO Jeff] Weiner says, are written communication, oral communication, team-building, and leadership skills. “

Isn’t it ironic… the latter three skills are developed by building a network marketing, direct sales, party plan, multilevel, or leveraged income business. And some of those directly incorporate written communication by the customer or distributor in the final product.

The four skills listed can be described as portable skills, which means they are learned in one arena and are applicable in another.

Know someone who needs a job? Send them the link to the article. If they ask for a way to build those skills, offer your business plan as a possible solution.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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