When I do, I typically am behaving in one of two typical ruts:
Rut #: I promised myself some fun, and I didn’t follow through. “After I finish _(work or tasks)_______, I’ll watch that episode/movie.” … but I keep adding to the task list and pushing off the reward.
Rut #2: I procrastinated so much that after I finished the critical tasks of the day, I didn’t have time to watch the movie. (This mode usually arises after several days in a row of Rut #1 and getting to bed after midnight.)
Regarding Rut #1… this is a pattern of working a whole lot, whether on my business, household upkeep, or assorted personal needs.
To correct this imbalance I decide on a length of time to work and an amount of time to do as I please. I write these on paper (such as, Work 30 minutes, then 5 minutes to do non-work of my choice).
I set a timer and let IT be the determination of when I work and when I’m doing as I please. A timer takes away the distraction of watching the clock, and it will alert me if I’m deeply concentrating. It’s the fair third-party “referee.”
When the timer chimes, if I choose to keep working, I decide on a new time, reset the timer, and on paper I also add that same amount of time onto the pause. AND I set the timer to control the amount of time I’m doing non-work, too. For example, I start with a written agreement to work 30 min and have Me-Time of 5 minutes. If I end up working for 45 minutes, I then immediately receive 35 minutes of Me-Time.
After several days of this timed behavior, I typically am willing to work longer times at a stretch (up to 90 minutes, which seems to be my willing upper limit) and require a break of 15 minutes maximum. That’s a ratio of 3: 1 (work time to “Me-Time”)
Rut #2 is a different animal. In this mode, most of my time is occupied with time “off”, usually with rebellion behavior (escape behavior such as mindlessly scrolling through social media).
When I realize I’m in Rut #2, I think very hard: what activity would REFRESH me, not just entertain me or let me “escape?” I know I find a worthy answer when I feel happy and excited about the activity. I then set aside time directly after breakfast (or as early in the day as reasonable) with a large (hour or more) block of time to do precisely that. This is what I nickname the “Fun First” approach.
When you procrastinate, are you working too much and pushing off the fun (Rut #1), or are you doing rebellion activities (Rut #2)?
Be aware of which pattern you typically slide into.
–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™
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