Coaching the cruel voice

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy.

You said you were going to send 3 texts every day… but you failed! Now you need to do SIX tomorrow, to stay on track.

You didn’t enroll a customer/distributor this week! And you made a goal to do that!!

You’ve worked for HOW MANY months and haven’t been able to retire? How many people did you ask, who told you “no”? Maybe you’re not cut out for being a business owner.

Goals are typically prods to help us stay focused on the business-building opportunities.

When does the prodding become cruel?

When it ignores the good stuff. When it pooh-pooh’s the steps we DID take in the right direction. When it applies a self-defeating label whose adhesive seems impossible to fully remove.

That voice only cares about perfection … and it has derailed untold numbers of leaders-in-the-making.

Sometimes the voice comes from people whom we thought we could count on. And more importantly, sometimes it comes from within us and its hurtful barbs reverberate inside our heads.

As leaders of our teams, we have to teach our distributors how to tame their destructive mental voices, if we want them to look inward for support and rely less on what the world advises.

I stumbled upon this article today. If we bear in mind that it assumes nonviolent relationships with mentally stable people, it has some fabulous insights for talking to and coaching our teammates. It’s also applicable for the distributor who is struggling with this destructive inner voice … or encounters the same hurtful tone from their current group of friends and family.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

P.S. If you are in, or suspect you are in, a business or social relationship with a person who demonstrates or threatens violence toward you, please contact a mental health professional or trusted law enforcement agent immediately.

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