Monthly Archives: November 2017

A beautiful and brutal time of year

In early 2014 my parents in law perished in an automobile accident.

I hoped that the 2014 Christmas season would be less brutal than I was cautioned to expect.


That year I could barely handle looking at holiday decor and sentiments, which is tough when one’s business deals squarely with those themes in the biggest financial quarter of the year.

I recall handling my clients’ requests with calmness and friendliness, but frequently after hanging up the phone or coming home after a meeting, I would cry from grief.

Subsequent years have been easier, but always include twinges of bittersweet memories.

If this describes you, know you are not alone.

Nowadays I look forward to the snow, low nighttime light, and the surge of friendly tidings of friends and strangers. I enjoy helping people select their items for purchase from our web site and giving pointers about designing their personal greetings of the season.

This season tends to heighten emotions, whether of past celebrations, current friends and family, or of those left behind or gone.

Regardless of what your product or service is, at least some of your clients and potential clients are experiencing similar, usually hidden, grief. It can manifest outwardly in angry responses to questions, suddenly cancelled appointments, and other awkward sales situations.

Please don’t take their actions personally. They might be receptive again after the new year begins.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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An Everyday Thankfulness

My husband and I moved to Germany a few months ago, so this is the first major holiday we’re spending away from extended family and friends that we’ve known for many years.

However, it’s a normal day in Deutschland.

My husband went to work, just like all the other employees in the country.

Grocery stores and post office are open. Trains run on their typical workday schedules instead of the reduced-frequency Sunday/Holiday timetables. No greetings of “Happy Thanksgiving” from people walking by. Here in late November, the undercurrent of excitement is from the openings of the Weinachtsmarkts (Christmas-theme outdoor markets) in each major town, starting this week or shortly thereafter.

I can’t find canned pumpkin, evaporated milk, or stuffing mix in any of the local grocery stores. I have no idea where to get a whole turkey, fresh or frozen. Cranberries are mythologically hard to find. Pumpkin pie has not been spotted in any store or bakery we’ve seen thus far.

Yet, I am thankful.

Moving here is a 15 year headstart on a long-time dream. My husband is employed in a job he loves. People are kind when we speak our beginner-level German but butcher the pronunciation and grammar. I can walk to a major grocery store within 10 minutes. I can hop on a train and in less than an hour indulge myself in several old downtowns crammed with gorgeous 5-storey half-timber (fachwerk) houses.

I am grateful for the internet, which allows me to seamlessly continue serving my USA based clients and gather new ones here. Social media helps me keep in touch with my friends and admire their gorgeous Thanksgiving dinner tables from afar.

We are in good health and have access to the universal health care mandated for every person staying in this country longer than 90 days.

I can pick up a phone or connect a video call over the Internet to hear loved ones’ voices on a whim.

And, I’m grateful for you. Regardless of the country you live in, thank you for reading my posts. I appreciate your time and send you best wishes for a joyous end-of-year holiday season.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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You’re up next!

Imagine you’re backstage at this weekend’s all-companies, all-generic training event for our profession. You have been preparing for this moment for months, when you were invited to speak. You flew to Las Vegas last night. Now you’re backstage. You can watch the stage action on large screen monitors. The technicians are hurrying around and talking in hushed tones. One comes up to you and verifies your name and that your projection slides are loaded. You nod, thinking about your first lines. You hear the crash of applause. The speaker is finishing, and the MC begins your introduction.

It took you years of effort to get here.

What is YOUR message to this crowd?

Think diligently about this. The opportunity may come more quickly than you realize.

And will you be ready to fill in on a moment’s notice in your company’s local meeting? That’s how the road to the big stage usually starts.

Be ready! And believe me, we in the audience want to hear what you have to say. You’re a new voice, without preconceived ideas in the minds of the audience.

We’ve all heard the “big names” and many of us can nearly quote their training. It’s good information. However…

Show us what point of view our industry has been missing.

Show us YOU.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Echo and Praise

Do you pay more attention to someone’s rank than the quality of their ideas?

This week I challenge you to pay close attention to people in your company who have an equal or lower rank than you.

Listen for an idea that can improve the company in a meaningful way.

Or for an idea that helps the lower-ranked people get promoted faster or eliminates a frustrating bureaucracy step for them.

Then use your star power.

Echo the idea and praise them by name on social media.

(You might choose to do this within your company’s distributor discussion group.)

Use the “Share” feature or copy-and-paste their words. Tag them in the post, or at least mention them by first and last name.

Even if your influence is at a peer-level, you are helping their idea gain traction.

Show them that you’re listening, you use the power you have to get good ideas heard, AND you give the credit to the creator.

That’s what great leaders do.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

P.S. On Facebook, writing a comment on a post gives it a higher priority in the Newsfeed than a quick click of Like or Love. So when you see a good idea, take 10 seconds to write a comment. Even a quick “good idea!” comment can help their idea gain traction.

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I prefer

Let’s talk about resisting change.

More change happened this week in our marketing tools. We received another one (which looks robust and well constructed).

I have been watching the conversations in the distributors-only forum, and I made this observation: many people resist a change because it’s different from what they prefer.

Preferences can guide our lives. When we prefer habits and activities that grow our skills, we become better leaders. When we prefer procrastination, we delay our success.

I think many people resist change because they prefer what they already use (or not).

The challenge is, how do we identify WHY we prefer something?

Do we prefer it because we have figured out how to use it (no matter how well or poorly it does the job)? Preference can be a result of “mastering” a tool or process so that we can be an authority and teach others how to use it.

Preference can also come from predictability. We know when we do X, it gives us Y.

Preference can also be driven by price, by the authority of who recommended it, or by how many people you know are using it.

The next time you resist a change, I suggest you think about why you prefer the “old way.”

(and sometimes the old way truly is better. But be clear why it is “better.”)

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

#lynnselwa #therocketsciencecoach #preferences #iprefer #networkmarketing #new