Monthly Archives: April 2017

Congratulate yourself in advance

Here’s one of my favorite motivational activities.

Pick a goal: a rank/pin level, income, or other goal.

Create a real greeting card congratulating you on accomplishing your goal, written from the point of view of someone powerful you respect. Examples are: your favorite business speaker, your higher power, the Universe, your favorite philosopher (living or deceased), your future self.

Yes, I mean go to the store and buy a physical greeting card, make one yourself, or use an online system that prints and mails one for you.

Important: make sure it is made of stiff paper and the fold is on the side. (That way it will stand up on its own for weeks or months.)

Not sure what to say? Here’s an idea:

“Dear Jane, you are awesome! I always knew you would become an Executive with your company, and I’m very happy you accomplished that goal. Congratulations! ” and sign it with their FIRST name, as if you were very good friends.

Now mail it to yourself. I’m serious– put a stamp on it and mail it to your address.

When you see it in the delivered mail, you will likely get a instant lift in mood.

Open it and set it in a private place — for example, display it in your at-home office or your bedroom. (NOT where co-workers or the general public can see it)

Imagine that person or being saying those words to you aloud, with great pride and warmth in their voice.

Put the card away the next morning.

Here’s the real secret: at the end of a hard day, set the card on your kitchen table or other private area of your home (maybe your dresser or nightstand). When you see the greeting card in the morning, if you’re like me, you’ll get a burst of happiness from seeing it. Savor the feeling of accomplishment and happiness.

When I was working diligently toward my now-current rank, I created 6 such greeting cards with different congratulatory messages. When I walked into my at-home office the morning after a hard day (or in the final days of working focused toward the goal), I got that burst of energy and happiness.

Repeat as many times as you please.

And please, do not pretend to other people that the signatures or messages are actually from those famous people… this activity is just between you and the 4 walls of your private room.

The power of this technique comes from setting out the cards occasionally, deliberately, AND in a private room.

Use it wisely.

Even more fun: after reaching that goal, you likely will receive congratulatory greeting cards or letters. Set these on display every evening until you get tired of seeing them!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Positive Press: Ivy League graduates join MLMs

I enjoy sharing informative articles regarding our profession.

The linked article was published on April 13, 2017. It includes positive aspects of the profession as well as some challenges of the public image and of regulation. Overall the tone is positive, so I am sharing it with you.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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When you tilt your head

Here is a public speaking tip, which I learned in a seminar approximately 10 years ago.

(I don’t remember the name of the presenter.)

When you tilt your head to the side, you decrease or negate the strength of your message.

It is a body language signal saying, “I’m harmless. Don’t hurt me.”

(Women tend to do this more than men, but it bears watching for all genders.)

It’s fine to nod up and down, but watch those sideways tilts!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Let it rot

“Just a friendly reminder that you [have] only 1 more day of replay access to the __________________ event videos. Replay access ends on April 6th at 8:30 am Central time. “

This message landed in my email inbox yesterday.

I don’t know about you, but I am somewhat addicted to personal development.

When I read a personal development book, I underline and make notes in the margin. (Thank goodness we can easily afford to buy the books instead of relying on the public library volumes.) When I show up in person to a training session, I am vying for the front row, or as close to the front as possible. When there’s a livestream, I watch as many sessions as I reasonably can and take handwritten notes… then quickly post a summary of the talk in our distributors-only Facebook group.

The event referenced in the email was a 3-day livestreamed seminar with more than 20 presenters. I was learning powerful insights in each of the sessions.

And I was grateful for the month-long access to the full-session recordings. The completeness of the content combined with the length of time to watch lessened my fear-of-missing-out.

And when I was just getting started in this profession, I had a significant fear of that opportunity passing me by.

Here’s how I compensated.

When I was a distributor in my first network marketing company, I let the training get out of hand. I always had another conference call, Saturday “advanced training,” or book. Goodness knows I needed lots of guidance, as I was still developing an entrepreneur’s self-discipline and body of knowledge. But I went too far.

Eventually I allowed myself to understand that I was using those tools to procrastinate from doing the scarier actions: meeting people, calling to set appointments, and asking for the sale.

When I joined my current company 10 years ago I made a decision. I would attend seminars and/or study personal development information, but at a reduced rate. I promised myself to be more honest with myself regarding procrastination. I recognized that the “shiny new object” syndrome gets activated in my brain not by new shoes or the latest technology toy, but by being easily distracted by the new or ‘scarce’ book, seminar, or training session.

And over the past decade I realized that wanting to buy and hold and renew large quantities of such information WAS a flareup of the old “I’m getting passed by” thought process.

When I received that email, I thought back through the past month. I watched about half of the sessions in real time. Then last week I took 2 chunks of time to watch the remaining recordings, knowing the one-month watching deadline was coming soon.

I was confronted with an offer in that email: pay X amount of money to have “lifetime access” to these recordings, or lose access to them forever.

I asked myself two key questions.

  1.  Did I watch and take notes on the specific sections that I was most likely to apply?
  2.  What is the likelihood I will ever watch those sessions again?

The answers:

  1. Yes.
  2. Near zero. (and do I want to ‘hoard’ those materials, even the access to them?)

I chose to let it expire. (and I will gladly register for the next year’s livestream)

Sometimes a forced purge is helpful.

This time it was best to let the offer rot.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Postscript:

Hoarding information is one way I tried to capture the elusive “secret to success.” It’s elusive because there’s no single such secret. And I realize that feeding my brain with positive and uplifting information is the important thing.

(Yes I will hang onto many of the personal development books I read over the years. This isn’t a call to go so-called ‘minimalist.’ Perhaps it is a call to go ‘choosy-ist.’)  –LS