Monthly Archives: October 2016

Be a Respectful Celebrity, Part 1

Do distributors in your company “know your name”?

As you rank advance and receive awards, your name and face will become more recognizable at company events and in social media.

I call that “being a minor celebrity.”

People on the street won’t necessarily recognize you, but you might become an in-company celebrity.

Regardless of your level of influence, you can use your celebrity status for good.

Tip 1. Give praise and recognize accomplishments in public. When you receive a card or gift for a non private accomplishment (business award, birthday, anniversary, etc), thank the sender publicly if possible. Be consistent- if you thank some senders in public, thank all in public. Otherwise it looks like you’re embarrassed to acknowledge your relationship with the sender. Post on their social media broadcasting “Timeline” if their account allows it. And make an effort to praise accomplishments of distributors outside your team.

Tip 2. Don’t out-shout other distributors. When you have celebrity status, even in a small way, your words carry more impact. Getting ready to post an article link in your company’s distributor social media group? Scroll through today’s and yesterday’s postings to see if anyone else posted it. If such a post exists, add a comment¬†supporting the article, such as, “Kerry, thanks for posting this.” Comments in Facebook keep the post active & bring it to the top of the group’s posting history.

Tip 3. Give as much credit as possible. See an idea in your social media feed? Use the Share feature or tag the author or post-er in the body of your post. See a fabulous post in your company discussion group that deserves more attention? Boost it by re-posting it in the same group, including an obvious mention of the original post-er (tag them) in the first line or 2 of your post. Make a game of how many relevant people (creators, improvers, and inspirers of your blog post idea) you mention. Avoid tagging lists of field leaders unless they were directly responsible for the content of your post. (Don’t waste their time. Get a good reputation for tagging them only when relevant, and those leaders will be much more likely to read and respond.)

These three principles also apply when speaking one-to-one, in groups, during webinars, and from the stage.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Chalk it up to “weird”

It happens to the best of us.

I was contacting people I met back in the early days of my business, to bring them up to speed with our improved smartphone and tablet app.

(I launched my network marketing distributorship in 2006, and from that initial day, building this distributorship is the only work I do.)

We met in 2006, and I gave her an interactive business presentation the next year. (Our presentation requires the potential customer or potential distributor to click along and compose a message on our web site or app.)

After years of occasional keep-in-touch and business-focused calls, as well as numerous greeting cards, she kept delaying launching a customer account. Now is not good, she told me. I’m not ready. Maybe in the future.

On yesterday’s phone call she freely blurted that she became a customer back in 2008 and loves the product and “uses it all the time.”

As she continued gushing compliments and excitement about the app, I don’t think she noticed that I stopped speaking for a moment. I felt betrayed and used.

From her comments I knew I couldn’t trust her, and I decided this would be the last time I ever contacted her.

I had a decision to make. How was I going to react, right here, right now?

Knowing she already made up her mind and evidently didn’t care about my opinion, I chose the proverbial “high road.”

I maintained my composure. I explained in general terms how she could use either the app or the web site to do her ordering. I graciously signed off.

And I was fuming.

I called a company colleague whom I respect and asked for 5 minutes to vent.

She asked me what happened.

After I calmly described what happened and how I felt about it, my friend paused.

“I would chalk that up to ‘weird’,” she said.

It was the positive perspective I needed, to guide my brain away from some very unflattering adjectives.

Sometimes, you just gotta say, “That was weird,” and move along.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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When the party’s over…

Veteran network marketers, you know what I’m talking about.

The Post-Convention Dip.

No inspiring speaker to listen to, surrounded by thousands of like-minded people.

No one making my bed. Suitcases to unpack. Forget about room service meals.

It’s the week after feeling “Bullet-Proof.”

Our Rookie of the Year said it best. “This week you’re bullet-proof. You can approach anyone about your business with complete confidence. But what about next week?”

Even we “engineering types” experience an uplift of emotions during convention… and so we are not immune to the swing of emotions either.

Here are my two tips for handling the post-convention deflation in emotions:

First, know that it’s coming. Tell your team about it, so they know what to expect.

Second, get an accountability partner.

Both tips will help you permanently apply your renewed commitment to business growth learned during that trip.

I have an accountability partner in my company… that’s not her formal role, but it’s the truth. Every time this lady calls me to discuss her business progress, we concentrate on her goals for the coming weeks, on her strategies and her questions. I welcome those calls and we schedule time for those discussions.

And each time I talk to her, I mention one of my outreach goals for the coming week.

Just knowing that I told her a snippet of what I planned is enough to internally urge me to complete that goal. I’m seeing progress in my business, and I have her friendship to thank.

(plus she’s a subscriber to this blog, so I know she’ll read this message)

Being accountable can be fun. And you can reinforce that behavior on your own by “celebrating everything”: every focused business-building action, every text or phone call that went positively, every time you gathered your courage and reached out to an influential person.

Keep doing celebration dances in your office and throwing your arms upward in a V of victory especially after the more challenging actions… and your next convention will be here before you know it!

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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Professional Jealousy

The kind female voice prompted me from her California mobile phone this morning. I heard traffic driving by and knew she was sitting in her convertible sports car. “So you experienced jealousy during your convention last week. What is your plan to handle that?”

I lowered my forehead to rest on my left hand. “I don’t have one,” I replied, sitting at my kitchen table in southeast Michigan.

After our conversation ended, I let that thought simmer.

What is my plan to handle flares of jealousy?

I kept asking myself the question, and an hour later I remembered another teacher … named Teresa Romain of “Access Abundance! ™” ¬† who is based in Wisconsin.

In 2008 Teresa taught me jealousy isn’t real.

That’s the most concise way I can describe her lesson. Bear with me for a moment as I explain.

In one sense of the word, jealousy is commonly described as an overwhelming feeling of “I want what she has!” The trophy. The designer jeans. The newest model mobile phone.

But in our coaching session, Teresa required me stop and think. Do I really want HER trophy, with her name written on it? Go even further and imagine that the winner called me to stage in front of several thousand audience members and announced, “I am giving this trophy to Lynn. In fact, I want the nameplate changed to read as her name.” Would that make me the winner of the award?

I answered in all truthfulness: no. Her name would still be recorded in the company history as the award winner, and mine would simply be inscribed on a good looking sculpture of glass and metal.

Teresa prodded further. Did that lady do the work necessary to earn the award? I freely acknowledged she had.

And further, Did I NOT want that lady to win the award?

No, that wasn’t my intention either. A worthy winner should be given the fruits of her accomplishment. For me to argue otherwise means I give permission for people to deny my accomplishments and honors and strip them from me.

Teresa pressed the question: So what does jealousy mean in such a moment?

My best answer is, “I want MY VERSION of that.”

In the intervening years since Teresa’s coaching session, I have learned jealousy is one of the strongest ways the Universe can grab my attention. If I had daydreamed, yearned, even deliberately visioned receiving that honor but had not done the commensurate work, then jealousy can be the proverbial screaming-in-one’s-ear to grab my attention and get me to focus on working toward that goal.

Because truly I wouldn’t want another lady’s designer jeans. (I have long legs and would want to start with a brand-new long-rise pair that would mold themselves to my unique shape.) And I wouldn’t want her to give me her smart phone, because it wouldn’t have the apps and setup I would want.

But I surely want my version. And that’s OK. There’s plenty of room in the Universe for two pairs of jeans and two smart phones.

Their having does not equal forever forbidding mine.

–LYnn Selwa, “The Rocket Science Coach” ™

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